G\u00f6z Hareketleri ile Duyars\u0131zla\u015ft\u0131rma ve Yeniden \u0130\u015fleme (EMDR) Derne\u011fi Y\u00f6netim Kurulu \u00dcyesi Psikiyatrist S\u00fcmer \u00d6ztanr\u0131\u00f6ver, duygusal istismara maruz kalan \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n \u00f6fke kontrol\u00fcn\u00fc sa\u011flayamad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131, sald\u0131rgan davrand\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131, sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 agresyon g\u00f6steremediklerini s\u00f6yledi.<\/p>\n
S\u00fcmer \u00d6ztanr\u0131\u00f6ver, \u00e7ocukluk \u00e7a\u011f\u0131nda ya\u015fanan fiziksel ve cinsel istismar ile ihmalin travmaya yol a\u00e7t\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n herkes taraf\u0131ndan bilindi\u011fini belirterek, “Az bilinen ya da fark edilmeyen ve daha fazla g\u00f6r\u00fclen bir durum daha vard\u0131r ki, o da duygusal istismar ve duygusal ihmal” dedi.<\/p>\n
D\u00fcnya Sa\u011fl\u0131k \u00d6rg\u00fct\u00fcn\u00fcn 2017 y\u0131l\u0131 verilerine g\u00f6re her 4 \u00e7ocuktan birinin fiziksel istismara her 3 \u00e7ocuktan birinin ise duygusal istismara maruz kald\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlatan \u00d6ztanr\u0131\u00f6ver, “Toplumda psikiyatrik rahats\u0131zl\u0131klar\u0131n neden bu kadar y\u00fcksek oranda g\u00f6r\u00fcld\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc de a\u00e7\u0131klayan, endi\u015felendiren ve \u00f6nlem al\u0131nmas\u0131 gereken bir veridir bu. Travma oldu\u011fu fark edilmeyen duygusal istismar \u00f6rneklerine bakacak olursak hemen her ailede ya\u015fanan t\u00fcrden oldu\u011funu kolayca g\u00f6rebiliriz. Bunlar\u0131n \u00e7ocu\u011fa yap\u0131lmas\u0131 ya da ba\u015fkas\u0131na yap\u0131lsa bile \u00e7ocu\u011fun buna tan\u0131k olmas\u0131 travmaya yol a\u00e7maktad\u0131r” diye konu\u015ftu.<\/p>\n
Ebeveynlerin \u00f6fkelerini kontrol edememelerinin, \u00e7ocuk hata yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda orant\u0131s\u0131z tepki vermenin, \u00e7ocu\u011fu \u2019daha iyi olsun diye\u2019 s\u00fcrekli ele\u015ftirmenin, kuralc\u0131-m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i-otoriter ebeveynli\u011fin, \u00e7ocu\u011fu dinlememe ve a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 \u00f6\u011f\u00fct vermenin birer duygusal istismar oldu\u011funu anlatan \u00d6ztanr\u0131\u00f6ver, ebeveynlerin \u00e7ocu\u011fa sar\u0131lmamas\u0131, \u00e7ocuk hata yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ebeveynin k\u00fcsmesinin, ebeveynin a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 me\u015fgul olmas\u0131 veya hasta olmas\u0131, \u00e7ocu\u011fun k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ya\u015fta ebeveynlerden uzun s\u00fcreli ayr\u0131lmas\u0131n\u0131n, \u00e7ocuk mutlu olsun diye ebeveynin \u00e7ocu\u011fun her istedi\u011fini yapmas\u0131n\u0131n, ebeveynin rehberlik yapmamas\u0131 ve sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 s\u0131n\u0131rlar koymamas\u0131n\u0131n da duygusal ihmaller oldu\u011funu ifade etti.<\/p>\n
\u00d6ztanr\u0131\u00f6ver, \u00e7ocukluk \u00e7a\u011f\u0131nda travmaya u\u011fram\u0131\u015f olan \u00e7ocuk ve gen\u00e7leri fark etmek i\u00e7in baz\u0131 ipu\u00e7lar\u0131n oldu\u011funu belirterek, \u015funlar\u0131 kaydetti:<\/p>\n
“Travmaya u\u011frayan \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 iki gruba ay\u0131rabiliriz. Bir grup s\u00fcrekli tehlike beklentisiyle a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 uyar\u0131lma ya\u015fayan, hiperaktivite, dikkat da\u011f\u0131n\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131, konsantrasyon azl\u0131\u011f\u0131 g\u00f6steriyor. Bu \u00e7ocuklar evde-okulda problem yarat\u0131yor ve fark ediliyorlar. Erken ya\u015flarda uzun s\u00fcren fiziksel ve duygusal \u015fiddete maruz kalmak \u015fefkat eksikli\u011fi ve empati yoksullu\u011funa yol a\u00e7arak kendinden g\u00fc\u00e7s\u00fczlere sald\u0131rgan davranmalar\u0131na ve eziyet etmelerine yol a\u00e7abilir. Bu grup \u2019sorunlu \u00e7ocuk\u2019 olarak etiketleniyorlar. Di\u011fer grubun ise birden fazla travmas\u0131 var. Kendileri, \u00e7evresindekiler taraf\u0131ndan fark edilmiyorlar. \u0130\u00e7ine adam ka\u00e7m\u0131\u015f gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcyorlar, \u00e7ocukluklar\u0131n\u0131 yitiren \u00e7ocuklar bunlar. Kendilerinden k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcklerle ya da b\u00fcy\u00fcklerle iyi anla\u015f\u0131yorlar.”<\/p>\n
\u00d6ztanr\u0131\u00f6ver, \u00e7ok uslu, olgun, ebeveynlerini hi\u00e7 \u00fczmeyen, \u00e7ok zeki, \u00fcst\u00fcn zekal\u0131, kontrols\u00fcz \u00f6fke patlamalar\u0131n\u0131n olmas\u0131, sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 agresyon g\u00f6steremeyen, tart\u0131\u015fmaktan ka\u00e7\u0131nan yani kendi \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131n\u0131 koruyamayan, sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 s\u0131n\u0131r koyamayan \u00e7ok kayg\u0131l\u0131 ve tak\u0131nt\u0131l\u0131 olan \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n da travma ma\u011fduru olma ihtimallerinin y\u00fcksek oldu\u011funu s\u00f6zlerine ekledi.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
G\u00d6Z HAREKETLER\u0130 \u0130LE DUYARSIZLA\u015eTIRMA VE YEN\u0130DEN \u0130\u015eLEME (EMDR) DERNE\u011e\u0130 Y\u00d6NET\u0130M KURULU \u00dcYES\u0130 PS\u0130K\u0130YATR\u0130ST S\u00dcMER \u00d6ZTANRI\u00d6VER, DUYGUSAL \u0130ST\u0130SMARA MARUZ KALAN \u00c7OCUKLARIN \u00d6FKE KONTROL\u00dcN\u00dc SA\u011eLAYAMADIKLARINI, SALDIRGAN DAVRANDIKLARINI, SA\u011eLIKLI AGRESYON G\u00d6STEREMED\u0130KLER\u0130N\u0130 S\u00d6YLED\u0130.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":150550,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[1],"tags":[252,3649,1274,14568,33945,33946,3714],"class_list":["post-150549","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-genel","tag-cocuklar","tag-duygusal","tag-kalan","tag-maruz","tag-oztanriover","tag-saldirganlasiyor","tag-siddete"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.tvturk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/oztanriover-duygusal-siddete-maruz-kalan-cocuklar-saldirganlasiyor_2172834.jpg?fit=960%2C960","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/paKIfm-Dad","_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/150549","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=150549"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/150549\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/150550"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=150549"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=150549"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=150549"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}