Psikolog Hande Nacar Ba\u015f, s\u0131nav i\u00e7in geri say\u0131m\u0131n ba\u015flamas\u0131yla baz\u0131 \u00f6\u011frencilerin \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmakta zorland\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, baz\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131n pes etti\u011fini, baz\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131n ise hala kafalar\u0131n\u0131 kitaplardan kald\u0131rmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, t\u00fcm bu belirtilerin kayg\u0131ya i\u015faret etti\u011fini s\u00f6yledi.<\/p>\n
Ac\u0131badem Adana Hastanesi\u2019nden Psikolog Hande Nacar Ba\u015f, s\u0131nav kayg\u0131s\u0131 ile ba\u015fa \u00e7\u0131kman\u0131n yollar\u0131n\u0131 ailelerle payla\u015ft\u0131. Ba\u015f, kayg\u0131 ile ba\u015f edemeyen insanlar\u0131n genellikle gen\u00e7 ya\u015flarda kayg\u0131 ile ba\u015f etmeyi \u00f6\u011frenemeyen ve kayg\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131n derin bir sebeple alakal\u0131 oldu\u011funu fark edemeyenler oldu\u011funu ifade etti.<\/p>\n
Kayg\u0131y\u0131 aileden \u00f6\u011freniyoruz<\/p>\n
Kayg\u0131l\u0131 yeti\u015fkinlerin, gen\u00e7lerin \u00e7ocukluk \u00e7a\u011flar\u0131na bak\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ailelerinin de kayg\u0131l\u0131 oldu\u011fu, dolay\u0131s\u0131yla kayg\u0131n\u0131n \u201c\u00f6\u011frenilen\u201d bir \u015fey oldu\u011fu sonucunun ortaya \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 belirten Ba\u015f, \u201cKayg\u0131l\u0131 ailelerde \u00e7ocu\u011fa g\u00fcven d\u00fc\u015f\u00fckt\u00fcr. G\u00fcvenmez ve arkalar\u0131n\u0131 toplamak isterler. \u00c7o\u011fu kayg\u0131l\u0131 bireyin ailesi m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7idir. Belki direkt s\u00f6ylenmemi\u015ftir ama \u00e7ocuk hataya yer olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bilir ve daima do\u011fru olmaya \u00e7abalar. Bu \u00e7ocuklar genellikle ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z olmamak i\u00e7in de\u011fil, ailelerine ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z g\u00f6r\u00fcnmemek i\u00e7in \u00e7abal\u0131yor. Ortaya \u00e7\u0131kan bir di\u011fer durum ise bu ki\u015filerin onaylanmay\u0131 \u00e7ok \u00f6nemsemeleri ve \u00e7ok y\u00fcksek standartlarla takdir edilmeyi beklemeleri oluyor. Bu ki\u015filer \u00e7o\u011funlukla kendilerini de takdir edemiyorlar\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n
S\u0131navlara b\u00fcy\u00fck anlamlar y\u00fcklemeyin<\/p>\n
S\u0131navdan y\u00fcksek not alman\u0131n sanki hayat\u0131n kurtulu\u015fu, mutlulu\u011fun tek form\u00fcl\u00fc gibi alg\u0131land\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 kaydeden Ba\u015f, \u201c\u00d6rne\u011fin \u00f6\u011frenci t\u0131p fak\u00fcltesini kazan\u0131nca sonsuz mutlulu\u011fa kavu\u015faca\u011f\u0131na inan\u0131yor. Bu t\u0131pk\u0131 masallardaki gibi bir mutlu sona inanmaya benziyor. Fakat hayat b\u00f6yle de\u011fil. S\u0131nav sonucu hayallerindeki gibi olsa da sonsuz mutluluk hayallerindeki gibi elde edilmiyor. S\u0131nava y\u00fcklenilen anlam b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fck\u00e7e s\u0131nav kayg\u0131s\u0131 da b\u00fcy\u00fcyor, bu stresle ba\u015f edemeyen ki\u015fi de hem bedenen hem zihnen yorgun d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcyor\u201d diye konu\u015ftu.<\/p>\n
Kendi hayallerinizi \u00e7ocuklara y\u00fcklemeyin<\/p>\n
S\u0131nav kayg\u0131s\u0131 olan \u00e7o\u011fu \u00e7ocu\u011fun s\u0131navla kendilerini var edeceklerine inan\u0131p ve yedek ya da alternatif bir plan da yapmad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131n alt\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7izen Psikolog Ba\u015f, \u201cBa\u015far\u0131l\u0131 ve ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z olmak \u00fczere iki se\u00e7enekleri oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnen \u00f6\u011frenciler i\u00e7in s\u0131nav\u0131 kazanamamak otomatik olarak ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z olmak anlam\u0131na geliyor. Kendine g\u00fcvenleri olmayan bu gen\u00e7ler planlar\u0131nda ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131z olurlarsa, hayatlar\u0131n\u0131 bitmi\u015f gibi alg\u0131layarak kendilerinden vazge\u00e7iyorlar ve mutsuz oluyorlar. \u00c7o\u011fu aileden duydu\u011fumuz \u2019Biz yapamad\u0131k bari gen\u00e7ler yaps\u0131n\u2019 s\u00f6z\u00fc \u00e7ok da masum bir temenni de\u011fil. Bu, ailenin \u00e7ocu\u011funa empoze etmek istedi\u011fi hayallerin oldu\u011funu hissettirir. Baz\u0131 aileler \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n mesle\u011fini dahi se\u00e7meye kalk\u0131\u015f\u0131r, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 \u00fczerinden kendi duygular\u0131n\u0131 tatmin ederler\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n
Psikolog Hande Nacar Ba\u015f, ne yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bilmeyen bir gencin ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 bir \u00e7al\u0131\u015fma hayat\u0131 olmas\u0131n\u0131 bekleyemeyece\u011fimizi, \u00f6nceli\u011fin ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 de\u011fil mutlu \u00e7ocuklar yeti\u015ftirmek oldu\u011funu ifade etti.<\/p>\n
“\u00c7ocu\u011funuzun s\u0131nava y\u00fckledi\u011fi anlam\u0131 azalt\u0131n”<\/p>\n
Psikolog Hande Nacar Ba\u015f, ailelere \u015fu 5 \u00f6neride bulundu:<\/p>\n
“Kendinizi ele\u015ftirin. Hi\u00e7 hayallerinizi \u00e7ocu\u011funuza empoze ettiniz mi? \u00c7ocu\u011funuzun kendisini arkada\u015flar\u0131 ile k\u0131yaslamas\u0131na izin vermeyin. \u2019Senin i\u00e7in her \u015feyi yapt\u0131k, sen de bizim i\u00e7in bu s\u0131nav\u0131 kazan\u2019 gibi c\u00fcmlelerle s\u0131nav\u0131 \u015fahsile\u015ftirmeyin. \u00c7ocu\u011funuz s\u0131nav\u0131 \u00f6nemsizle\u015ftiriyorsa kendini korumak i\u00e7indir. Bir s\u0131nav sonucu onun de\u011ferini belirlemeyecek, bunu hissettirin.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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