Uzman Psikolojik Dan\u0131\u015fman \u015eenol Bayg\u00fcl, yalan s\u00f6yleme ve yalan\u0131n fark edilmesi konusunda \u00f6nemli bilgiler verdi. Bayg\u00fcl, \u201c\u00d6ncelikle bilinmeli ki herhangi bir g\u00fcnde 10 ile 200 yalana maruz kalabiliyoruz. Yalan\u0131 k\u0131saca tan\u0131mlayacak olursam, di\u011fer insanlara bilerek, yanl\u0131\u015f oldu\u011fu bilinen bir bilginin do\u011fruymu\u015f gibi iletilmesi, \u00f6d\u00fcllendirilmek ya da birine zarar verme amac\u0131yla bir ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131k\u00e7a yan\u0131ltma giri\u015fimi diyebilirim. Burada \u00f6nemli olan niyetli ve bilin\u00e7li bir \u015fekilde ger\u00e7e\u011fin de\u011fi\u015ftirilmesi ya da \u00e7arp\u0131t\u0131lmas\u0131d\u0131r. E\u015finin yeni kestirdi\u011fi sa\u00e7lar\u0131n\u0131 be\u011fenmedi\u011fi halde \u201cg\u00fczel olmu\u015f\u201d diyen bir ki\u015fi ile i\u015fledi\u011fi cinayeti inkar eden ki\u015fi aras\u0131nda asl\u0131nda fark yoktur. Yaln\u0131zca toplumun yalanlara verdi\u011fi beyaz, pembe, tozpembesi, siyah gibi… isimler sayesinde farktan s\u00f6z edebiliriz\u201d diye konu\u015ftu.<\/p>\n
Yalan\u0131n ne kadar hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n i\u00e7inde oldu\u011funun ortada ve zaman zaman sorunlardan ka\u00e7\u0131nmay\u0131 da sa\u011fl\u0131yor gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc dile getiren Uzman Psikolojik Dan\u0131\u015fman \u015eenol Bayg\u00fcl, \u201cO zaman \u201cya\u015fas\u0131n yalan!\u201d m\u0131 diyece\u011fiz. Hay\u0131r. Her ne kadar anl\u0131k rahatlama ya\u015fat\u0131yor, ka\u00e7\u0131\u015f sa\u011fl\u0131yor gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcnse de yalan uzun vadede olumsuz etki ortaya \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131r. Yalan bireyin kendi i\u00e7inde \u00e7at\u0131\u015fma ya\u015fay\u0131p gergin olmas\u0131na sebep olur ve insanlar aras\u0131nda g\u00fcvensizli\u011fi ve mesafeyi artt\u0131r\u0131r, ili\u015fkileri \u00f6ld\u00fcr\u00fcr.\u201d \u015feklinde konu\u015ftu.<\/p>\n
Neden s\u00f6ylendi\u011fi kadar yalan\u0131n nas\u0131l fark edilece\u011finin de cezb edici bir konu oldu\u011funu dile getiren Uzman Psikolojik Dan\u0131\u015fman \u015eenol Bayg\u00fcl, yalanlar\u0131 yakalama ihtimalimizin y\u00fczde 54 oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yledi.<\/p>\n
Bayg\u00fcl, a\u00e7\u0131klamas\u0131n\u0131 \u015f\u00f6yle s\u00fcrd\u00fcrd\u00fc; \u201cEn yeni bilgiye g\u00f6re en belirgin ipucu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce ak\u0131\u015f\u0131 i\u00e7inde. Yalan s\u00f6yleyen ki\u015filer konu\u015fmalar\u0131 s\u00fcrecince daha uzun s\u00fcre d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyor ve daha \u00e7ok duraks\u0131yor ki zihninde s\u00f6ylediklerine destek toplayabilsin.<\/p>\n
G\u00fcnl\u00fck diyaloglarda \u00f6nem verilmedi\u011finden veya sonraki s\u00f6ze odaklan\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan dolay\u0131 g\u00f6zden ka\u00e7an mikro ifadeler de asl\u0131nda bize her \u015feyi anlat\u0131yor. \u00d6rne\u011fin; g\u00fcl\u00fcmsedi\u011fimiz zaman g\u00f6zlerimizin yanlar\u0131nda k\u0131r\u0131\u015f\u0131kl\u0131klar \u00e7\u0131km\u0131yorsa o g\u00fcl\u00fcmseme y\u00fcksek ihtimalle sahtedir. Bir atas\u00f6z\u00fc var bu durumu destekler nitelikte \u201cBir ki\u015fi g\u00fclerken g\u00f6be\u011fi oynam\u0131yorsa ondan korkun\u201d. Bir di\u011fer \u00f6rnek olarak bir insan konu\u015furken dudaklar\u0131n\u0131 a\u015fa\u011f\u0131 do\u011fru istemsizce b\u00fck\u00fcyorsa, bu s\u00f6yledi\u011fine kendisinin bile inanmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 g\u00f6sterir.<\/p>\n
Size anlat\u0131lan bir olay\u0131n yalan oldu\u011fundan \u015f\u00fcpheleniyorsan\u0131z, kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdakinden olay\u0131 bir de tersten anlatmas\u0131n\u0131 isteyin. Hik\u00e2yesini ezberden s\u00f6yleyen yalanc\u0131, geriye do\u011fru ezberlemeyi hi\u00e7bir zaman d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmez. \u0130yi bir yalanc\u0131, iyi bir haf\u0131zaya sahip olmal\u0131d\u0131r. K\u00f6t\u00fc yalanc\u0131lar beden hareketlerini ve ses tonlar\u0131n\u0131 kontrol edemezler ve bu kanallardan yalan s\u00f6ylediklerini s\u0131zd\u0131r\u0131rlar.<\/p>\n
Yalan s\u00f6ylemek genel uyar\u0131lm\u0131\u015f hali olu\u015fturur, \u015f\u00f6yle ki yalan s\u00f6yleyen ki\u015fide g\u00f6z bebe\u011finde b\u00fcy\u00fcme, daha s\u0131k g\u00f6z k\u0131rpma, bo\u011faz\u0131nda kuruma ve yutkunma g\u00f6r\u00fcl\u00fcr.<\/p>\n
Yalan\u0131n izini burun \u00e7evresinde s\u00fcrebilirsiniz. Sinir sisteminin en hassas u\u00e7lar\u0131 burunda oldu\u011fundan dolay\u0131, beynin verdi\u011fi uyumsuzluk sinyalleri, kendini ilk olarak burunda g\u00f6sterir ve burun kar\u0131ncalanmaya, ka\u015f\u0131nmaya ve k\u0131zarmaya ba\u015flar. Ger\u00e7ek ka\u015f\u0131nt\u0131dan fark\u0131 yalan s\u00f6yleyen ki\u015finin burnunu hafif\u00e7e ka\u015f\u0131mas\u0131ndad\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Sa\u011f elini kullanan biri ger\u00e7ek olaylar\u0131, an\u0131lar\u0131 ve duygular\u0131n\u0131 payla\u015f\u0131rken sola \u00fcste do\u011fru bakmal\u0131d\u0131r. Yalan s\u00f6yl\u00fcyorsa e\u011fer bakaca\u011f\u0131 taraf sa\u011f \u00fcst taraf yani olu\u015fturaca\u011f\u0131 y\u00f6n olacakt\u0131r. Ancak kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdaki profesyonel bir yalanc\u0131ysa bakaca\u011f\u0131 tek yer g\u00f6zlerinizin i\u00e7i.<\/p>\n
Yalan s\u00f6ylemenin i\u00e7ten i\u00e7e yanl\u0131\u015f bir \u015fey oldu\u011funun bilinmesine ba\u011fl\u0131 olarak yalan s\u00f6ylerken eller istemsizce a\u011f\u0131z b\u00f6lgesine g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcl\u00fcr, b\u00f6ylece engel olu\u015fturulmaya saklanmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131l\u0131r. Hatta dudaklara dokunmak bile ip ucu.<\/p>\n
Kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdaki ki\u015finin nerede oldu\u011fu ve ne yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131yla ilgili \u015f\u00fcpheniz varsa sorular\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 cevaplarken ne kadar ayr\u0131nt\u0131 verdi\u011fine dikkat edin. Gere\u011finden fazla detay veriyor, hik\u00e2yesini destekleyecek ayr\u0131nt\u0131lar sunuyorsa hakl\u0131 olabilirsiniz.<\/p>\n
Yalan\u0131 kullanan ki\u015filerin v\u00fccut duru\u015fu da sizi tehdit olarak g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc i\u00e7in sizden geride duracak hatta ka\u00e7\u0131\u015f rotas\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7izmi\u015f olacakt\u0131r. Tesad\u00fcfe bak\u0131n ki lavaboya gitme ihtiyac\u0131 hissetmi\u015ftir.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cG\u00f6zlemleyebilece\u011finiz di\u011fer \u015fey ise beden ve s\u00f6ylemin tutarl\u0131 olmamas\u0131d\u0131r\u201d diyen Uzman Psikolojik Dan\u0131\u015fman \u015eenol Bayg\u00fcl, \u201c\u00d6rne\u011fin ki\u015fi i\u015fe gelemedi\u011fi i\u00e7in ba\u015f\u0131na gelen \u00fcz\u00fcc\u00fc bir ya\u015fant\u0131y\u0131 payla\u015f\u0131yor, ancak y\u00fcz\u00fcnde aldat\u0131c\u0131 bir g\u00fcl\u00fcmseme yakal\u0131yor olabilirsiniz. Ya da yalan s\u00f6yleyen ki\u015fi \u201cevet\u201d der ama ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131 \u201chay\u0131r \u201c anlam\u0131nda sallar\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
UZMAN PS\u0130KOLOJ\u0130K DANI\u015eMAN \u015eENOL BAYG\u00dcL, YALAN S\u00d6YLEME VE YALANIN FARK ED\u0130LMES\u0130 KONUSUNDA \u00d6NEML\u0130 B\u0130LG\u0130LER VERD\u0130.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":161517,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[21620,12723,3890,12444],"class_list":["post-161516","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-genel","tag-edebiliriz","tag-fark","tag-nasil","tag-yalani"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.tvturk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/yalani-nasil-fark-edebiliriz_d5c17d4.jpg?fit=960%2C400","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/paKIfm-G16","_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/161516","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=161516"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/161516\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/161517"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=161516"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=161516"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=161516"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}