Psikolog G\u00fclcem Y\u0131ld\u0131r\u0131m, cinayete tan\u0131k olan \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n cinayet an\u0131n\u0131n unutamad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yledi.<\/p>\n
Y\u0131ld\u0131r\u0131m, cinayetlerin \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n psikolojisini derinden etkiledi\u011fini ifade ederek, \u201cKad\u0131n cinayetleri dur durak bilmezken, bu \u00fcz\u00fcc\u00fc olaylara her g\u00fcn bir yenisi ekleniyor. Cinayetlere tan\u0131k olan \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n psikolojisi de derinden etkileniyor. K\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ya\u015fta bir \u00e7ocu\u011fun cinayete tan\u0131kl\u0131k etmesinin, o an\u0131 t\u00fcm detaylar\u0131yla ya\u015famas\u0131n\u0131n a\u011f\u0131r bir psikolojik travma. Cinayeti izleyen bir \u00e7ocu\u011fun duygusu deh\u015fet, korku, su\u00e7luluk, utan\u00e7 ve \u00e7aresizlik olur. Bir \u00e7ocuk b\u00f6yle bir sahneye maruz kald\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ilk duygusu deh\u015fet olur. Deh\u015fete kap\u0131lan \u00e7ocu\u011fun davran\u0131\u015f\u0131ysa donmad\u0131r. \u00c7ocuk bu g\u00f6r\u00fcnt\u00fcy\u00fc izlerken donar ve b\u00fct\u00fcn olan biteni haf\u0131zas\u0131n\u0131n derinliklerine hi\u00e7 silinmeyecek bir \u015fekilde kaydeder. \u00c7ocu\u011fun maruz kald\u0131\u011f\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcnt\u00fcn\u00fcn annesine ve babas\u0131na ait olmas\u0131 ise \u00e7ocu\u011fun i\u00e7inde par\u00e7alanma duygusu olu\u015fturur. Sanki \u00e7ocu\u011fun b\u00fct\u00fcn ruhu ve bedeni toz bulutu kadar ince milyonlarca par\u00e7aya ayr\u0131lm\u0131\u015f gibi hisseder. Yok olmu\u015f gibi hisseder\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n
Y\u0131ld\u0131r\u0131m ailenin \u00e7ocu\u011fun g\u00fcvende hissetti\u011fi, d\u0131\u015fardan gelecek herhangi bir tehlikeye kar\u015f\u0131 emniyette oldu\u011fu yer oldu\u011funu belirterek, \u201d Hal b\u00f6yleyken en b\u00fcy\u00fck tehdit ve tehlikenin ailesinden geldi\u011fine tan\u0131k olan \u00e7ocu\u011fun d\u00fcnyaya olan g\u00fcven duygusu ciddi bi\u00e7imde zarar g\u00f6r\u00fcr. Bu \u00e7ocuk i\u00e7in d\u00fcnya art\u0131k g\u00fcvensiz, insanlar da tehlikelidir. Her an zarar g\u00f6rece\u011fine dair derin bir \u015f\u00fcpheyle ya\u015far kalan hayat\u0131n\u0131. \u00c7ocu\u011fun maruz kald\u0131\u011f\u0131 bu olayda etraf\u0131nda var olan her \u015fey \u00e7ocu\u011fun beynine travmatik an\u0131n\u0131n hat\u0131rlat\u0131c\u0131lar\u0131 olarak kaydedilir. Annesinin \u00f6l\u00fcm an\u0131ndaki \u00e7\u0131\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131, odadaki e\u015fyalar, baban\u0131n elindeki b\u0131\u00e7ak, i\u00e7erdeki koku. Bu hat\u0131rlat\u0131c\u0131larla her temas\u0131nda \u00e7ocuk ka\u00e7 ya\u015f\u0131nda olursa olsun deh\u015fet an\u0131na geri d\u00f6ner. Dolay\u0131s\u0131yla bu \u00e7ocuk ilerleyen ya\u015flar\u0131nda ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bu travmatik an\u0131n\u0131n duygusuna s\u00fcrekli maruz kal\u0131r. Cinayete tan\u0131k olan \u00e7ocuk ilk a\u015famada travma an\u0131n\u0131 s\u0131k s\u0131k r\u00fcyalar\u0131nda kabus olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcr. Bu kabuslar \u00e7ocu\u011fu deh\u015fete d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcrd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc i\u00e7in uyumak istemez. Dolay\u0131s\u0131yla bu \u00e7ocuklarda en s\u0131k kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z durum uyku problemleridir. Ayr\u0131ca geceleri alt\u0131na ka\u00e7\u0131rma, tek ba\u015f\u0131na uyuyamama, donukluk, etraf\u0131nda olan bitene ilgisinin azalmas\u0131, di\u011fer \u00e7ocuklar gibi oyun oynayamama, hep bir tehlike beklentisi bu \u00e7ocuklarda s\u0131k\u00e7a kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z di\u011fer duygu durum bozukluklar\u0131d\u0131r. Cinayete tan\u0131k olan \u00e7ocu\u011fun hissetti\u011fi bir di\u011fer duygu ise su\u00e7luluk ve utan\u00e7t\u0131r. \u00c7ocuk cinayeti herhangi bir \u015fekilde \u00f6nleyemedi\u011fi i\u00e7in kendisini su\u00e7lu ve utanm\u0131\u015f hisseder. B\u00f6yle bir travma sonras\u0131 b\u00fcy\u00fcyen \u00e7ocuk ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 ac\u0131n\u0131n bedelini ya kendisinden \u00e7\u0131karmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r ya da etraf\u0131ndaki insanlara \u00f6detmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. Kendisine zarar veren e\u015f ya da sevgili bulabilir, babas\u0131 gibi sald\u0131rgan bir partner bulma olas\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131 \u00e7ok y\u00fcksektir mesela. Ya da bu ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 ac\u0131n\u0131n sorumlulu\u011fu di\u011fer b\u00fct\u00fcn insanlara y\u0131kar. \u0130\u00e7inde herkese kar\u015f\u0131 bitmeyen bir \u00f6fke, nefret ve kin besler. \u015eayet cinayete maruz kalan \u00e7ocuk erkek \u00e7ocu\u011fuysa ilerde yeti\u015fkin bir erkek oldu\u011funda e\u015fine ya sevgilisine \u015fiddet g\u00f6sterme e\u011filimi \u00e7ok y\u00fcksektir. Babas\u0131n\u0131n annesine yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 eziyetin ayn\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 erkek \u00e7ocu\u011fu da e\u015fine yapar\u201d \u015feklinde konu\u015ftu.<\/p>\n
Y\u0131ld\u0131r\u0131m, travmaya maruz kalan \u00e7ocuk i\u00e7in ilk olarak yap\u0131lacak \u015fey ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bu travmay\u0131 hat\u0131rlatacak herhangi bir g\u00f6rsel ya da i\u015fitsel bir uyaran\u0131n bulunmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 g\u00fcvenli bir ortam sa\u011flanmas\u0131 oldu\u011funu kaydederek, \u201c \u00c7ocu\u011fa bu s\u00fcre\u00e7te televizyon izletilmemesi gerekir. \u00c7ocuk ailede g\u00fcvende hissetti\u011fi bir yeti\u015fkinin yan\u0131nda kalabilir. Kendi do\u011fal ortam\u0131ndan uzakla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131lmamas\u0131 uygundur. Yan\u0131nda kald\u0131\u011f\u0131 yeti\u015fkinlerin ya da etraf\u0131ndaki insanlar\u0131n bu olayla ilgili \u00e7ocu\u011fun yan\u0131nda konu\u015fmas\u0131, \u00e7ocu\u011fa olayla ilgili sorular sorulmas\u0131 uygun de\u011fildir. \u00c7ocuk olayla ilgili herhangi bir \u015fey sorarsa k\u0131sa ve net cevaplar verilmesi, \u00e7ocuk olayla ilgili duygular\u0131n\u0131 payla\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131nda da dikkatlice ve s\u00f6z\u00fcn\u00fc kesmeden dinlenilmesi gerekir. B\u00f6yle bir travma ya\u015fayan \u00e7ocuk i\u00e7in hem annesinin yas\u0131n\u0131 tamamlamas\u0131na hem de babas\u0131na olan \u00f6fkesini ifade etmesine olanak tan\u0131nmal\u0131d\u0131r. Bu s\u00fcre\u00e7te psikolog deste\u011fi \u00e7ok \u00f6nemlidir. Uzman bir psikolog deste\u011fi ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 travmay\u0131 sindirebilmesine olanak sa\u011flar. Travmadan olu\u015fabilecek kal\u0131c\u0131 hasarlar\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcne ge\u00e7er. Toplum olarak bize d\u00fc\u015fen g\u00f6rev ise ya\u015fanan bu gibi olaylar\u0131n videosunu izlememek, yak\u0131n \u00e7evremizdeki insanlara izlettirmemektir. Bu videolar insanlar\u0131n duyars\u0131zla\u015fmas\u0131na ya\u015fanan olaylar\u0131n normalize edilmesine sebep olmaktad\u0131r\u201d a\u00e7\u0131klamas\u0131nda bulundu.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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