\u00d6fke n\u00f6betine giren \u00e7ocu\u011fun kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda sakin ve so\u011fukkanl\u0131 olunmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini belirten Uzman Klinik Psikolog B\u00fc\u015fra Keyik, verilecek cezan\u0131n \u00e7ocukla ebeveyn aras\u0131n\u0131n daha da a\u00e7\u0131lmas\u0131na yol a\u00e7abilece\u011fini s\u00f6yledi.<\/p>\n
\u00c7ocuklarda g\u00f6r\u00fclen \u00f6fke vakalar\u0131 ve bu \u00f6fke durumlar\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcne nas\u0131l ge\u00e7ilece\u011fine dair a\u00e7\u0131klamalarda bulunan Doruk Sa\u011fl\u0131k Grubu Uzman Klinik Psikolog B\u00fc\u015fra Keyik, \u201c\u00d6fke, her insan\u0131n do\u011fas\u0131nda vard\u0131r. Uygun yollarla ifade edildi\u011finde sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir duygudur. Ki\u015finin \u00e7evresinde olup biten olaylara ya da kendisine y\u00f6nelik her t\u00fcrl\u00fc tehdide kar\u015f\u0131 g\u00f6sterdi\u011fi bir savunma d\u00fczene\u011fidir. Bebeklikten itibaren var olan \u00f6fke duygusunun ilk d\u0131\u015fa vurma \u015fekli, kriz \u015feklinde a\u011flamakt\u0131r. Ya\u015f ilerledik\u00e7e ki\u015finin \u00f6fkesini d\u0131\u015fa vurma \u015fekilleri de\u011fi\u015fir. \u00c7ocuklarda \u00f6fkenin bir\u00e7ok farkl\u0131 sebepleri olabilir. \u00d6zellikle k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u00e7ocuklar, hen\u00fcz kendilerini ifade etmede zorland\u0131klar\u0131 i\u00e7in \u00f6fke davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 sergileyebilir. \u0130steklerini ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerini ifade edememek, k\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131klar, payla\u015fmay\u0131 hen\u00fcz \u00f6\u011frenmemi\u015f olmak onlarda stres olu\u015fturabilir. \u00c7ocuklar haks\u0131zl\u0131\u011fa u\u011frad\u0131klar\u0131na inan\u0131rlarsa, ayr\u0131mc\u0131l\u0131k yap\u0131l\u0131rsa, yanl\u0131\u015f anla\u015f\u0131l\u0131rlarsa ve amac\u0131n\u0131 a\u015fan ceza al\u0131rlarsa sinirlenir, \u00f6fkelerini d\u0131\u015far\u0131ya vurabilir. Ailesinde b\u00fcy\u00fcklerden s\u00fcrekli \u00f6fkeli davran\u0131\u015flar g\u00f6ren \u00e7ocuklar da a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 \u00f6fkeli olabilir. Anne ve babas\u0131n\u0131 s\u00fcrekli tart\u0131\u015f\u0131rken g\u00f6ren \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n bu sorunu ya\u015famas\u0131 daha g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc bir ihtimaldir. O y\u00fczden \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n yan\u0131nda yap\u0131lan konu\u015fmalara ve davran\u0131\u015flara dikkat edilmelidir. \u0130stekleri kar\u015f\u0131lanmayan ya da yeterince kar\u015f\u0131lanmayan \u00e7ocuklar \u00f6fkeli davran\u0131\u015flar g\u00f6sterebilir. Tutars\u0131z anne ve baba davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 da \u00e7ocu\u011fun \u00f6fkelenmesine sebep olabilmektedir. \u00d6rne\u011fin annenin koydu\u011fu kurala baban\u0131n \u00f6zen g\u00f6stermemesi \u00f6fke krizini tetikleyebilir. \u00c7evresinde \u00f6fkeli davran\u0131\u015flar sergileyip istedi\u011fini yapt\u0131ran \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 g\u00f6zlemleyen \u00e7ocuklar da \u00f6fkeli davran\u0131\u015flar sergileyip istediklerini yapt\u0131rmak isteyebilirler\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n
\u00d6fke n\u00f6betlerini \u00f6nlemek, \u00f6fke n\u00f6betlerinden ka\u00e7\u0131nmak i\u00e7in de bilgiler veren B\u00fc\u015fra Keyik, \u201c\u00c7ocu\u011funuzun \u00f6fke n\u00f6betleri hangi durumlarda oluyor? Bunu tespit edin ve bunlardan uzak durmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n. \u00c7ocu\u011fa \u00e7ok ani, haz\u0131r olmas\u0131na f\u0131rsat vermeden emir ve isteklerde bulunmay\u0131n. \u00c7ocuk park\u0131nda kayd\u0131raktan kaymaya kendini kapt\u0131rm\u0131\u015f \u00e7ocu\u011funuza, hadi art\u0131k eve gidiyoruz demek yerine, 10 dakika daha kay, sonra eve gidece\u011fiz demek daha do\u011fru bir yakla\u015f\u0131md\u0131r. \u00c7ocuklar uykusuzluk, yorgunluk, a\u00e7l\u0131k gibi durumlara tahamm\u00fcl edemezler. Bunlara \u00f6zen g\u00f6stermeniz \u00e7ocu\u011fu rahatlatacakt\u0131r. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n se\u00e7im yapmalar\u0131na imkan verin, do\u011frudan fikirlerinizi dikte etmeyin. So\u011fuk havada ba\u015fl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 takmadan soka\u011fa \u00e7\u0131kmakta direnen \u00e7ocu\u011funuza, bug\u00fcn k\u0131rm\u0131z\u0131 m\u0131 yoksa ye\u015fil ba\u015fl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 m\u0131 takmak istersin tarz\u0131 yakla\u015f\u0131m onun yumu\u015famas\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flayacakt\u0131r. Tutarl\u0131 olmak ve konulan kurallar\u0131 fire vermeden uygulamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak, \u00e7ocuklarda orta ve uzun vadede \u00f6fke ve olumsuz davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n ortadan kalkmas\u0131 i\u00e7in yard\u0131mc\u0131d\u0131r\u201d ifadelerini kulland\u0131.<\/p>\n
\u00c7ocuklara ceza vermemek gerekti\u011fine vurgu yapan Klinik Psikolog B\u00fc\u015fra Keyik, \u201c\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ceza, \u00e7ocukla ebeveyn aras\u0131n\u0131n daha da a\u00e7\u0131lmas\u0131na yol a\u00e7ar. \u00d6fke n\u00f6betine giren \u00e7ocu\u011funuz kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda sakin ve so\u011fukkanl\u0131 olun. S\u00f6zel ve fiziksel \u015fiddet uygulamay\u0131n. Dedi\u011fini yaparak \u00f6fke n\u00f6betini peki\u015ftirmesine meydan vermeyin. Dikkatini ba\u015fka yere \u00e7ekmek, nefes almas\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flamak sakinle\u015fmesini beklemek do\u011fru bir davran\u0131\u015f olacakt\u0131r. Sakinle\u015fti\u011fi anda bu davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 onaylamad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 s\u00f6yleyin ve onu \u00f6fkelendiren \u015feyi konu\u015fun. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131n \u00f6fke patlamalar\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6nlemek i\u00e7in onlara beceriler \u00f6\u011fretin. \u00d6rne\u011fin yard\u0131m istemek, planlamak gibi. Asla onu sakinle\u015firse \u00f6d\u00fcllendirece\u011finizi s\u00f6ylemeyin. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc bu durum \u00f6d\u00fcl i\u00e7in \u00f6fkesini kullanmas\u0131na sebep olacakt\u0131r. \u00c7ocu\u011funuz \u00f6fkelenip size vuruyorsa, \u00e7ocu\u011funuzu durdurun. K\u0131zg\u0131n oldu\u011funu anlad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 ama size vurmas\u0131na izin vermeyece\u011finizi s\u00f6yleyin\u201d \u015feklinde konu\u015ftu.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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