Doktor Bahar Eri\u015f, Ya\u015fam Akademisi\u2019nin Akbat\u0131\u2019da ger\u00e7ekle\u015fen s\u00f6yle\u015fisinin konu\u011fu oldu. Dr. Eri\u015f, ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 \u00e7ocuk yeti\u015ftirmenin s\u0131rlar\u0131n\u0131 Akbat\u0131 misafirleri ile payla\u015ft\u0131.<\/p>\n
\u2018\u00c7ocuklar Nas\u0131l Ba\u015far\u0131r\u2019 konusu ile Ya\u015fam Akademisi\u2019nin Akbat\u0131 ev sahipli\u011finde ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftirdi\u011fi s\u00f6yle\u015finin konu\u011fu olan Dr. Bahar Eri\u015f, ebeveynlere bu \u00e7a\u011fda temel ba\u015far\u0131 becerileri nelerdir, esneklik, odaklanma, irade nas\u0131l geli\u015ftirilir, anlaml\u0131 bir hayat neye ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r sorular\u0131n\u0131n yan\u0131tlar\u0131n\u0131 verdi. Uyand\u0131ktan sonraki iki ila d\u00f6rt saat aral\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n insan zihninin en parlak oldu\u011fu an\u0131 oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yleyen Eri\u015f, planlama ve berrakl\u0131k gerektiren i\u015flerin bu zaman diliminde yap\u0131lmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini a\u00e7\u0131klad\u0131.<\/p>\n
“Nasihat etmek yerine dinleyin”<\/p>\n
“B\u00fcy\u00fcy\u00fcnce ne olacaks\u0131n?” sorusu ile \u00e7ocu\u011fun birey olma s\u00fcrecinin, genellikle k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ya\u015flardan itibaren bask\u0131land\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n alt\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7izen Eri\u015f; “Anne babalar \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na dair hayaller ta\u015f\u0131yorlar. Bu da anla\u015f\u0131labilir elbette, herkes \u00e7ocu\u011fu ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 olsun ister. \u00d6te yandan, bu sadece ebeveynin karar verece\u011fi bir \u015fey de\u011fildir. \u00d6nemli olan \u00e7ocu\u011fun kim oldu\u011fudur. \u00c7ocu\u011fun mizac\u0131, kabiliyetleri, kapasitesi, hayalleri neler? Bunu g\u00f6z ard\u0131 eden ve \u00e7ocu\u011fu kendi hayallerine g\u00f6re \u015fekillendirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan ebeveynler hem \u00e7ocuklar\u0131yla sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 ili\u015fki kurmakta sorun ya\u015farlar. Aileler nasihat etmeyi severler. Ancak \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 dinlemek gerekir” dedi.<\/p>\n
“Sadece kendine de\u011fil i\u00e7inde ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 d\u00fcnyaya da fayda sa\u011flayan bir birey olmal\u0131”<\/p>\n
\u00c7ocuklara ba\u015far\u0131n\u0131n i\u00e7lerindeki potansiyeli ger\u00e7ekle\u015ftirdikleri ve bunu yaparken iyi ve do\u011frudan sapmad\u0131klar\u0131, anlaml\u0131 bir ya\u015fam olarak anlatabilece\u011fini s\u00f6yleyen Eri\u015f, insan\u0131n ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 hayattan mutlu olmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini belirtti.<\/p>\n
Eri\u015f, \u201cVicdan ve empati sahibi bir birey de olmal\u0131. Ki\u015fisel istekleriyle toplumsal ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131 bir arada g\u00f6zetmeli. Sadece kendine de\u011fil i\u00e7inde ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 d\u00fcnyaya da fayda sa\u011flayan bir birey olmal\u0131\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n
Misafirlerin sorular\u0131na da yan\u0131t veren Eri\u015f, ebeveynlerin ve \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n ba\u015far\u0131 alg\u0131s\u0131 ayn\u0131 m\u0131, \u00e7ocuklar i\u00e7in ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 olmak ne anlam ifade ediyor sorusuna; “\u0130lk ad\u0131m\u0131n\u0131 atan bebe\u011fe bak\u0131n. O an verdi\u011fi mutluluk tepkisi, ba\u015farma duygusunun en saf halini yans\u0131t\u0131r. G\u00fcl\u00fcc\u00fckler sa\u00e7ar, ellerini \u00e7\u0131rpar, \u00e7\u0131\u011fl\u0131klar atar. Ba\u015far\u0131 mutluluk getirmez diye d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnenler, bir bebe\u011fin ba\u015farma an\u0131 videolar\u0131n\u0131 izleyebilir\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n
Eri\u015f s\u00f6zlerine \u015f\u00f6yle devam etti; “\u0130\u015fte b\u00f6yle b\u00f6yle ba\u015far\u0131 alg\u0131s\u0131 zamanla yava\u015f yava\u015f \u015fekilleniyor. \u0130\u00e7inde yeti\u015fti\u011fin ortama ve deneyimlere g\u00f6re, b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fck\u00e7e devreye korkular giriyor. Ki\u015finin mizac\u0131, ailesi, ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 talihli ya da talihsiz olaylar, okulda \u00f6\u011fretmenleri, ergenlikte arkada\u015flar\u0131 ba\u015far\u0131 alg\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 \u015fekillendirmede rol oynuyor”.<\/p>\n
Ba\u015far\u0131n\u0131n s\u0131rlar\u0131ndan birinin ger\u00e7ek\u00e7i iyimserlik oldu\u011funu belirten Eri\u015f, her \u015feyin ki\u015finin kendisinde bitti\u011finin alt\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7izdi.<\/p>\n
Eri\u015f, en ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 sonu\u00e7lar\u0131n karakter, kabiliyet ve kariyer \u00fc\u00e7l\u00fcs\u00fcn\u00fcn uyumuyla sa\u011fland\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131klad\u0131. Bu nedenle ki\u015finin kendisini tan\u0131mas\u0131, g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc ve zay\u0131f yanlar\u0131n\u0131 bilmesi ve buna g\u00f6re bir hayat yolu \u00e7izmesinin ba\u015far\u0131da \u00e7ok \u00f6nemli oldu\u011funu vurgulayarak, kendini kand\u0131rma, kayg\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131k ve kay\u0131ts\u0131zl\u0131k \u00fc\u00e7l\u00fcs\u00fcn\u00fcn ise ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n temelini olu\u015fturdu\u011funu s\u00f6yledi.<\/p>\n
Kayg\u0131 seviyesi artt\u0131k\u00e7a iradenin zay\u0131flad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131klayan Eri\u015f, 4-6 ya\u015f grubu \u00e7ocuklar aras\u0131nda yap\u0131lan Zevki Erteleme Becerisi Testi – Marshmallow Testi\u2019ni anlatt\u0131.<\/p>\n
Eri\u015f; “Bu teste iki \u015fey g\u00f6zlemleniyor. Birincisi \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n kendini kontrol edebilme becerisi ikincisi ise beklemenin \u00e7ocuk i\u00e7in ne kadar uygulanabilir bir \u015fey oldu\u011fu. K\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ya\u015fta ara\u015ft\u0131rmaya kat\u0131lan \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n akademik ba\u015far\u0131 durumu inceleniyor. Zevki erteleyebilen \u00e7ocuklar erteleyemeyenlere g\u00f6re akademik hayatta daha ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 oluyor” dedi.<\/p>\n
Hiperaktif ve d\u00fcrt\u00fcsel olarak tan\u0131mlanan \u00e7ocuklar i\u00e7in<\/p>\n
Eri\u015f, bir\u00e7ok ara\u015ft\u0131rman\u0131n hareket eksikli\u011fi, do\u011fadan uzak ya\u015fam\u0131n, ekrana fazla maruz kalman\u0131n hiperaktivite aras\u0131nda yak\u0131n ili\u015fki oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yledi. Hiperaktif ve d\u00fcrt\u00fcsel olarak tan\u0131mlanan \u00e7ocuklar i\u00e7in Eri\u015f, i\u00e7eride oturmaktansa d\u0131\u015far\u0131da ko\u015fmalar\u0131n\u0131, atlamalar\u0131n\u0131 ve spor yapmalar\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6nerdi.<\/p>\n
Bir sonraki konuk: \u2019M\u00fcmin Sekman\u2019<\/p>\n
Akbat\u0131 Ya\u015fam Akademisi\u2019nin bir sonraki konu\u011fu 24 Ekim Per\u015fembe g\u00fcn\u00fc \u2018Her \u015eey Seninle Ba\u015flar\u2019 konusuyla M\u00fcmin Sekman olaca\u011f\u0131 a\u00e7\u0131kland\u0131.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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