Uzman Klinik Psikolog Merve K\u0131rna, \u201cYa yanl\u0131\u015f, eksik bir \u015fey s\u00f6ylersem ve gene y\u00fcz\u00fcm k\u0131zar\u0131rsa\u201d c\u00fcmlesi ki\u015finin e\u011fitim, i\u015f, sosyal, hayat\u0131nda s\u0131k\u0131nt\u0131lara neden olabilmekte ve bu kayg\u0131 ki\u015finin var olan potansiyelini kullanamamas\u0131na sebep olabilmektedir. Ya\u015fanan bu kayg\u0131n\u0131n as\u0131l olu\u015fma sebebi, di\u011fer insanlar\u0131n ki\u015fi hakk\u0131nda ne d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc de\u011fil, asl\u0131nda ki\u015finin kendi olumsuz duygu ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerinin b\u00fct\u00fcn\u00fcd\u00fcr. Tehlike asl\u0131nda uzaklarda de\u011fil, ki\u015finin kendi i\u00e7erisindeki duygudur\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n
Stresli oldu\u011fumuzda, su\u00e7luluk hissetti\u011fimizde, kayg\u0131land\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda, heyecanland\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda ya da utand\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda v\u00fccutta salg\u0131lanan adrenalin hormonu v\u00fccut \u0131s\u0131s\u0131n\u0131n artmas\u0131na neden oldu\u011funu dile getiren Psikolog Merve K\u0131rna, \u201cSempatik sinir sistemini uyararak derinin y\u00fczeyine yak\u0131n kan damarlar\u0131n\u0131 geni\u015fleterek kan\u0131 y\u00fcz b\u00f6lgesine g\u00f6nderir. Sosyal anksiyete bozuklu\u011fu olan ki\u015filerde fiziksel olarak; y\u00fcz k\u0131zarmas\u0131, terleme, kalp at\u0131m\u0131nda h\u0131zlanma \u015feklinde kendini g\u00f6sterirken, d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce boyutunda; \u201cRezil oldum\u201d, \u201cHerkes benimle dalga ge\u00e7ecek\u201d, \u201cYanl\u0131\u015f bir \u015fey s\u00f6ylersem k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck d\u00fc\u015ferim\u201d gibi olumsuz d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnceler ile kendini g\u00f6sterir, davran\u0131\u015f olarak ise; toplum i\u00e7inde kendini g\u00f6sterecek etkinliklerden ka\u00e7\u0131nma \u015feklinde kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131za \u00e7\u0131kar\u201d diye konu\u015ftu.<\/p>\n
Y\u00fcz k\u0131zarmas\u0131 olu\u015fumunda; \u00f6rne\u011fin okul y\u0131llar\u0131nda s\u00f6zl\u00fcye kalkan bir \u00e7ocuk, hata yap\u0131p yanl\u0131\u015f bir \u015fey s\u00f6yledi\u011finde ve s\u0131n\u0131f i\u00e7inde kendisiyle dalga ge\u00e7ildi\u011finde, ki\u015fi ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 olay\u0131 travmatik bir deneyim gibi alg\u0131layabilmekte ve ayn\u0131 olay\u0131n tekrarlanmamas\u0131 i\u00e7in kendini d\u0131\u015f \u00e7evreden soyutlamakta ya da yeti\u015fkin hayat\u0131nda dahi mecburen bir sunum yapmak zorunda oldu\u011funda ge\u00e7mi\u015f deneyimler canlan\u0131p y\u00fcz k\u0131zarmas\u0131, kayg\u0131 olu\u015ftu\u011funu anlatan Psikolog Merve K\u0131rna, \u201cBunun yan\u0131 s\u0131ra; \u00e7ocukluk \u00e7a\u011f\u0131nda ailenin tutumu da \u00f6nemli yer tutmaktad\u0131r. Ebeveynlerin \u00e7ekingen yap\u0131da olmas\u0131, cezaland\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 ebeveyn tutumlar\u0131, ebeveynin kendi ayr\u0131lma korkusundan dolay\u0131 kendileri olmazsa \u00e7ocu\u011funun ba\u015f\u0131na bir \u015fey gelecek kayg\u0131s\u0131 ile \u00e7ocu\u011fa bask\u0131 yapmas\u0131, a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 koruyucu ya da reddedici aile tutumlar\u0131, kat\u0131 anne-baba modeli ya da m\u00fckemmeli arayan ebeveynler \u00e7ocu\u011fa \u201cHi\u00e7 hata yapmamal\u0131s\u0131n\u201d, \u201cHata yaparsan cezaland\u0131r\u0131l\u0131rs\u0131n\u201d mesaj\u0131n\u0131 verdik\u00e7e, \u00e7ocuk hata yapmaktan korkar ve hata yapmamak i\u00e7in \u201cAcaba hata yapar m\u0131y\u0131m?\u201d, \u201cYanl\u0131\u015f bir \u015fey yaparsam ceza al\u0131r m\u0131y\u0131m\u201d kayg\u0131s\u0131 ya\u015far ve bu durum yeti\u015fkin hayat\u0131nda \u201cYanl\u0131\u015f bir \u015fey s\u00f6ylersem, rezil olurum\u201d kayg\u0131s\u0131na neden olabilir. Altta m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i duygular vard\u0131r ve \u201cHer \u015fey m\u00fckemmel olmal\u0131\u201d kayg\u0131s\u0131 ki\u015fiyi hata yapmaktan korkar hale getirir. Yap\u0131lan i\u015fte hata yap\u0131lmas\u0131 ya da eksik olmas\u0131, i\u015fin m\u00fckemmel olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131yla e\u015f de\u011fer olur ve bu ki\u015filer i\u00e7in eksik ve hatal\u0131 yap\u0131lan bir i\u015f kar\u015f\u0131 taraftan onay almaz, de\u011fer g\u00f6rmez olarak e\u015fle\u015ftirilir\u201d diye konu\u015ftu.<\/p>\n
Psikolog Merve K\u0131rna, y\u00fcz k\u0131zarmas\u0131 ile nas\u0131l ba\u015f edilebilece\u011fi konusunda ise \u015funlar\u0131 s\u00f6yledi; \u201cY\u00fcz k\u0131zarman\u0131za neden olan bir olay ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda, o anki duygular\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n fark\u0131nda olun ve bu duygular\u0131n k\u00f6kenini bulup y\u00fczle\u015fin. Y\u00fcz k\u0131zarma durumunu alg\u0131lay\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131z, \u00f6rne\u011fin bir sunum esnas\u0131nda \u201cY\u00fcz\u00fcm k\u0131zard\u0131 m\u0131?\u201d d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesi bu durumu ortaya \u00e7\u0131karan etkenlerden biridir.<\/p>\n
Olumsuz d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerinizin fark\u0131na var\u0131n \u201cHata yaparsam rezil olurum\u201d, \u201cYanl\u0131\u015f bir \u015fey s\u00f6ylersem k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck d\u00fc\u015ferim\u201d, \u201cEksik bir \u015fey s\u00f6ylemem beni di\u011ferlerinin g\u00f6z\u00fcnde de\u011fersiz yapar\u201d gibi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerinizden uzakla\u015fmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131n.<\/p>\n
Kayg\u0131 yarataca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bildi\u011finiz ortama girmeden \u00f6nce gev\u015feme egzersizleri yap\u0131n.<\/p>\n
Kendinizin g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc ve zay\u0131f y\u00f6nlerinizi tan\u0131y\u0131n. Sadece g\u00fc\u00e7s\u00fcz olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 kabul edin. Hayat\u0131n\u0131zdaki ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 alanlara odaklan\u0131n.<\/p>\n
\u0130nsanlar\u0131n zihnini okumaktan vazge\u00e7in. Okumaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z zihin kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdaki ki\u015finin de\u011fil, sizin kendinizle ilgili d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerinizi olu\u015fturmaktad\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Bu durum, g\u00fcnl\u00fck hayat\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n i\u015fleyi\u015finizi ve sosyal ili\u015fkilerinizi, i\u015f, e\u011fitim hayat\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 olumsuz anlamda etkiliyorsa psikolojik destek almaktan \u00e7ekinmeyin.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
UZMAN KL\u0130N\u0130K PS\u0130KOLOG MERVE KIRNA, \u201cYA YANLI\u015e, EKS\u0130K B\u0130R \u015eEY S\u00d6YLERSEM VE GENE Y\u00dcZ\u00dcM KIZARIRSA\u201d C\u00dcMLES\u0130 K\u0130\u015e\u0130N\u0130N E\u011e\u0130T\u0130M, \u0130\u015e, SOSYAL, HAYATINDA SIKINTILARA NEDEN OLAB\u0130LMEKTE VE BU KAYGI K\u0130\u015e\u0130N\u0130N VAR OLAN POTANS\u0130YEL\u0130N\u0130 KULLANAMAMASINA SEBEP OLAB\u0130LMEKTED\u0130R. YA\u015eANAN BU KAYGININ ASIL OLU\u015eMA SEBEB\u0130, D\u0130\u011eER \u0130NSANLARIN K\u0130\u015e\u0130 HAKKINDA NE D\u00dc\u015e\u00dcND\u00dc\u011e\u00dc DE\u011e\u0130L, ASLINDA K\u0130\u015e\u0130N\u0130N KEND\u0130 OLUMSUZ DUYGU VE D\u00dc\u015e\u00dcNCELER\u0130N\u0130N B\u00dcT\u00dcN\u00dcD\u00dcR. TEHL\u0130KE ASLINDA UZAKLARDA DE\u011e\u0130L, K\u0130\u015e\u0130N\u0130N KEND\u0130 \u0130\u00c7ER\u0130S\u0130NDEK\u0130 DUYGUDUR\u201d DED\u0130.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":217324,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[1],"tags":[54972,1130,54971],"class_list":["post-217323","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-genel","tag-kizarir","tag-neden","tag-yuzumuz"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.tvturk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/neden-yuzumuz-kizarir_7a32473.jpg?fit=750%2C562","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/paKIfm-Uxd","_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/217323","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=217323"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/217323\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/217324"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=217323"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=217323"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=217323"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}