\u015eanl\u0131urfa\u2019da e\u015fi ikinci evlili\u011fini yap\u0131nca \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fcden kansere yakalanan 35 ya\u015f\u0131ndaki Emine \u0130\u015fbilen \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 i\u00e7in hayata s\u0131ms\u0131k\u0131 sar\u0131ld\u0131. Pes etmeyen \u0130\u015fbelen, hem kanser hastal\u0131\u011f\u0131na hem de ya\u015fam ko\u015fullar\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131 b\u00fcy\u00fck bir m\u00fccadele y\u00fcr\u00fctt\u00fc. Yeniden hayata ba\u011flanan Emine \u0130\u015fbilen, hayalindeki mali m\u00fc\u015fvarlik mesle\u011fini de kazanarak, ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 ac\u0131lar\u0131 anlatan kitap yazd\u0131.<\/p>\n
\u015eanl\u0131urfa\u2019da ya\u015fayan ve iki \u00e7ocu\u011fuyla birlikte mutlu bir evlili\u011fi olan 35 ya\u015f\u0131ndaki Emine \u0130\u015fbilen\u2019nin hayat\u0131, 6 y\u0131l \u00f6nce e\u015finin bir evlilik daha yapmas\u0131 \u00fczerine adeta kabusa d\u00f6nd\u00fc. E\u015fi ba\u015fka bir kad\u0131n\u0131 ikinci e\u015f olarak eve getirmesine katlanamayan \u0130\u015fbilen, \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fcden kansere yakaland\u0131. Defalarca intihar etmeyi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnen \u0130\u015fbilen, 2 \u00e7ocu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnerek bu giri\u015fiminden vazge\u00e7erek, babas\u0131n\u0131n evine gitti. Kocas\u0131ndan ayr\u0131ld\u0131ktan sonra \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 da elinden al\u0131nan kad\u0131n, babas\u0131n\u0131n evinde \u00e7ocuklar\u0131ndan geri kalan elindeki emzikle aylarca eve kapand\u0131. Uzun s\u00fcre kanserle m\u00fccadele eden kad\u0131n, \u00f6nce ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 travmay\u0131 atlatt\u0131, daha sonra ise kanser hastal\u0131\u011f\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131 b\u00fcy\u00fck bir ya\u015fam m\u00fccadelesine girdi. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131 da geri almay\u0131 ba\u015faran kad\u0131n, eski kocas\u0131n\u0131n da mesle\u011fi olan mali m\u00fc\u015favir olabilmek i\u00e7in hem ders \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131. Girdi\u011fi ilk meslek s\u0131nav\u0131n\u0131 ba\u015far\u0131yla bitiren \u0130\u015fbilen, mali m\u00fc\u015favir oldu.<\/p>\n
Kad\u0131nlara \u00f6rnek olmak istiyor<\/p>\n
Yakla\u015f\u0131k 6 y\u0131l boyunca ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 ac\u0131lar\u0131 kitap haline getiren Emine \u0130\u015fbilen, \u015fimdi ise hem mali m\u00fc\u015favirlik mesle\u011fini yap\u0131yor hem de kendisi gibi zor \u015fartlarda ya\u015famaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan kad\u0131nlara \u00f6rnek olmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yor. G\u00fcneydo\u011fu\u2019da kad\u0131n olman\u0131n zorluklar\u0131n\u0131 bildi\u011fini ve bu y\u00fczden kendisi gibi her y\u00f6nden t\u00fckenmek \u00fczere olan kad\u0131nlara \u00f6rnek olmak istedi\u011fini s\u00f6yleyen \u0130\u015fbilen, kitab\u0131nda ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 ac\u0131lar\u0131, tekrar hayata tutunmak i\u00e7in verdi\u011fi m\u00fccadeleyi ve nas\u0131l hayalindeki mesle\u011fi kazand\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlat\u0131yor.<\/p>\n
“Aciz ve diplere vurmu\u015f bir kad\u0131nd\u0131m”<\/p>\n
Mutlu giden evlili\u011finin kabusa d\u00f6nd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc s\u00f6yleyen Emine \u0130\u015fbilen, ya\u015fad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 \u015f\u00f6yle anlatt\u0131:<\/p>\n
“Mutlu bir evlili\u011fi olan iki \u00e7ocuk annesi bir ev han\u0131m\u0131yd\u0131m ama maalesef e\u015fim ikinci evlilik ad\u0131 alt\u0131nda beni aldat\u0131p kad\u0131n\u0131 hayat\u0131m\u0131za koyunca ve \u00e7ocuk sahibi olunca b\u00fcy\u00fck bir travma ya\u015fad\u0131m. \u00c7ok b\u00fcy\u00fck ac\u0131lar ya\u015fad\u0131m. \u00dcz\u00fcnt\u00fcden \u00e7ok zay\u0131flad\u0131m ve anoreksiya s\u0131n\u0131r\u0131na geldim, \u00f6l\u00fcm ile burun buruna ya\u015fad\u0131m. Yetmedi kansere yakaland\u0131m. Aciz ve diplere vurmu\u015f bir kad\u0131nd\u0131m. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131ma bile annelik yapabilecek durumda de\u011fildim. Hayalini kurdu\u011fum mali m\u00fc\u015favirlik mesle\u011fini kazanmak bile benim i\u00e7in m\u00fcmk\u00fcn de\u011fildi. Bir g\u00fcn kendimle ba\u015f ba\u015fa kal\u0131p ba\u015f\u0131m\u0131 iki elimin aras\u0131na ald\u0131\u011f\u0131mda \u2018hay\u0131r bu b\u00f6yle gitmemeli, bu d\u00fczen, benim gibi kad\u0131nlar b\u00f6yle devam etmemeli, hayata d\u00f6nmeli ben ve benim gibi kad\u0131nlar\u2019 dedim ve b\u00fcy\u00fck bir yemin ettim, bir g\u00fcn olur da bu kaosun, travman\u0131n i\u00e7inden \u00e7\u0131karsam, sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131ma kavu\u015fup hayal etti\u011fim mesle\u011fi elime al\u0131rsam ve ben olursam benim gibi olan b\u00fct\u00fcn kad\u0131nlar i\u00e7in sava\u015faca\u011f\u0131ma yemin ettim.”<\/p>\n
“S\u0131ra kad\u0131nlar i\u00e7in m\u00fccadele geldi”<\/p>\n
Kendisi gibi ma\u011fduriyet ya\u015fam\u0131\u015f kad\u0131nlar i\u00e7in m\u00fccadele etmek istedi\u011fini belirten “O g\u00fcn verdi\u011fim s\u00f6z\u00fc yava\u015f yava\u015f yerine getirmeye ba\u015flad\u0131m. \u00d6nce o hastal\u0131kl\u0131 halim ve aya\u011f\u0131mda ikinci bebe\u011fimi sallarken hayalini kurdu\u011fum mali m\u00fc\u015favirlik s\u0131nav\u0131n\u0131 ilk giri\u015fte kazand\u0131m. Daha sonra sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131ma kavu\u015ftum ve ayaklar\u0131 \u00fczerinde duran bir kad\u0131n olmay\u0131 ba\u015fard\u0131m. Art\u0131k s\u0131ra kad\u0131nlar i\u00e7in m\u00fccadele vermeye geldi dedim. B\u00fct\u00fcn dezavantajl\u0131 b\u00f6lgeleri gezerek kad\u0131nlar\u0131 bilin\u00e7lendirdim. B\u00fct\u00fcn sivil toplum kurulu\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n toplant\u0131lar\u0131na kat\u0131l\u0131p sosyal sorumlulu\u011fumu yerine getirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131m fakat bu benim i\u00e7in yetmedi. S\u00f6z u\u00e7ar yaz\u0131 kal\u0131r diyerek \u201cK\u00fcllerinden Do\u011fu\u015f\u201d kitab\u0131m\u0131 yazmaya karar verdim. Bu kitab\u0131 yazd\u0131m. B\u00fct\u00fcn hayat hikayemi, bu 6 y\u0131lda ge\u00e7irdi\u011fim b\u00fct\u00fcn ac\u0131lar\u0131m\u0131 yazd\u0131m. Do\u011fuda kad\u0131n olman\u0131n ac\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 yazd\u0131m. Her \u015feyi dile getirdim. Evet, bu ac\u0131larla dolu bir hayatt\u0131 ama bir ba\u015far\u0131 \u00f6yk\u00fcs\u00fcyd\u00fc\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n
Hem gen\u00e7leri okumaya te\u015fvik etmeye hem de kendisi gibi zorluk \u00e7eken kad\u0131nlar\u0131 aya\u011fa kald\u0131rmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015faca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yleyen \u0130\u015fbilen, \u201cK\u00fcllerinden Do\u011fu\u015f asl\u0131nda bir biti\u015f de\u011fil bir ba\u015flang\u0131\u00e7 benim i\u00e7in. \u015eimdi Allah izin verirse K\u00fcllerinden Do\u011fu\u015f\u2019un yani ba\u015far\u0131 seminerlerini T\u00fcrkiye\u2019de uzanabildi\u011fim b\u00fct\u00fcn illere, kurumlara ba\u015far\u0131 \u00fczerine seminerler verip hem gen\u00e7leri okumaya te\u015fvik etmek, hem de eski Emine\u2019nin oldu\u011fu gibi diplere vurmu\u015f kad\u0131nlar\u0131 aya\u011fa kald\u0131rmak i\u00e7in m\u00fccadele verece\u011fim\u201d diye konu\u015ftu.<\/p>\n
Bir yandan hayalindeki meslek olan mali m\u00fc\u015favirli\u011fi yapan Emine \u0130\u015fbilen di\u011fer yandan ise iki k\u0131z\u0131na bak\u0131yor.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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