Ac\u0131badem Eski\u015fehir Hastanesi Uzman Klinik Psikolog Asl\u0131 \u00d6zsoy, \u00e7ocuklu\u011fundan itibaren k\u00f6t\u00fc muamele g\u00f6rm\u00fc\u015f, yetersiz bak\u0131ma maruz kalm\u0131\u015f, ilgi ve sevgi g\u00f6rmemi\u015f, \u00f6zg\u00fcveni geli\u015fememi\u015f ki\u015filerin fl\u00f6rt \u015fiddetine maruz kalma riski daha fazla olabilece\u011fini belirtti. \u00d6zsoy, \u201cGenel olarak erkeklerin fl\u00f6rt \u015fiddetini yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131na dair bir alg\u0131 olsa da kad\u0131nlar da \u015fiddetin bir\u00e7ok \u00e7e\u015fidini partnerine yapabilmektedir\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n
Asl\u0131 \u00d6zsoy, son zamanlarda artan a\u015fk cinayetleri, fl\u00f6rt \u015fiddeti, eski e\u015fini yaralad\u0131 ya da \u00f6ld\u00fcrd\u00fc, k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131ktan g\u00f6z\u00fc d\u00f6nd\u00fc, sevgilisini sokak ortas\u0131nda d\u00f6vd\u00fc, istismara u\u011frad\u0131 gibi \u015fiddete dayal\u0131 haberlere dikkat \u00e7ekti. \u201c\u0130li\u015fkilerde birbirini \u00e7ok seven insanlar\u0131n nas\u0131l oluyor da birbirine zarar verecek hale geliyor?\u201d diye soran Uzman Klinik Psikolog Asl\u0131 \u00d6zsoy, \u201cSadece fiziksel \u015fiddet de de\u011fil, bask\u0131yla ve k\u0131s\u0131tlamalarla olu\u015fan s\u00f6zl\u00fc olan psikolojik \u015fiddet, ki\u015finin izin hakk\u0131 vermedi\u011fi halde \u201chay\u0131r\u201d demesine ra\u011fmen cinsel \u015fiddet ve istismar olmas\u0131 da ili\u015fkide b\u00fcy\u00fck bir sorun olu\u015fturmaktad\u0131r. A\u015fk i\u00e7in k\u00f6rl\u00fck hali diyebiliriz. Fl\u00f6rt d\u00f6neminde ya\u015fanan duygu yo\u011funlu\u011funda kar\u015f\u0131 taraf\u0131n olumsuz tutum ve davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131 daha katlan\u0131labilir g\u00f6z\u00fckebilir g\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcze veya baz\u0131 \u015feylerin zamanla de\u011fi\u015fece\u011fine inanc\u0131m\u0131z olu\u015fur \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc a\u015fk b\u00f6yle b\u00fcy\u00fcleyici bir durumdur. Ki\u015filer birbirlerini tan\u0131y\u0131p, anla\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131, psikolojik olarak mutlu hissetti\u011fi, kendilerine zarar vermeyece\u011fi alg\u0131s\u0131na sahip oldu\u011funda sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir ili\u015fki devam eder. Bunun haricinde ili\u015fkinin ba\u015flar\u0131nda g\u00fc\u00e7 ve otoriteyi olu\u015fturmaya y\u00f6nelik fl\u00f6rt \u015fiddeti ortaya \u00e7\u0131kar. Genel olarak erkeklerin fl\u00f6rt \u015fiddetini yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131na dair bir alg\u0131 olsa da kad\u0131nlar da \u015fiddetin bir\u00e7ok \u00e7e\u015fidini partnerine yapabilmektedir\u201d diye belirtti.<\/p>\n
Ac\u0131badem Eski\u015fehir Hastanesi Uzman Klinik Psikolog Asl\u0131 \u00d6zsoy, \u015fiddeti \u015fu ba\u015fl\u0131klar alt\u0131nda de\u011ferlendirdi;<\/p>\n
Fiziksel fl\u00f6rt \u015fiddeti<\/p>\n
Bir partnerin di\u011ferinin bedenine kas\u0131tl\u0131 olarak zarar verme durumudur. Bu ki\u015fide ya \u00f6fke kontrol bozuklu\u011fu vard\u0131r ya da bu durumdan haz duymaktad\u0131r. Otorite ve g\u00fcc\u00fcn onda olmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini ispatlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131r. \u00d6rne\u011fin; t\u0131rmalamak, tokat atmak, itmek, s\u0131k\u0131\u015ft\u0131rmak, \u0131s\u0131rmak, bo\u011fmak, yakmak, d\u00f6vmek, silahla yaralamak vb. Davran\u0131\u015flard\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Cinsel fl\u00f6rt \u015fiddeti<\/p>\n
Bir partnerin di\u011ferini cinsel birliktelik veya yak\u0131nl\u0131k ya\u015famak i\u00e7in zorlamas\u0131, cinsellik konusunda \u201chay\u0131r\u201d\u0131 kabul etmemesidir. Bu ki\u015finin, ki\u015filik bozuklu\u011funun oldu\u011funu veya sapk\u0131nl\u0131klar\u0131 olan tak\u0131nt\u0131l\u0131 bir ki\u015filik yap\u0131s\u0131 oldu\u011funu g\u00f6sterebilir. \u00d6rne\u011fin; tecav\u00fcz, tecav\u00fcz giri\u015fimi, taciz ve k\u00fcrtaj\u0131 da i\u00e7ine alan cinsel istismar davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Psikolojik fl\u00f6rt \u015fiddeti<\/p>\n
Bir partnerin di\u011ferinde korku uyand\u0131racak, kendine olan g\u00fcvenini ve sayg\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 zedeleyecek bi\u00e7imde konu\u015fmas\u0131 ve davranmas\u0131d\u0131r. Burada ki\u015finin daha bencil bir ki\u015fili\u011fe sahip olabilece\u011fi ya da kendisinin psikolojik baz\u0131 sorunlar\u0131n\u0131n olabilece\u011fi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fclebilir. \u00d6rne\u011fin; a\u015fa\u011f\u0131lamak, arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcnde k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr\u00fcc\u00fc davran\u0131\u015flarda bulunmak, partnerinin duygu ve d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncelerini \u00f6nemsemeyerek kendi istek ve beklentilerini kar\u015f\u0131latmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak, de\u011fersiz hissettirmek, ona mecburmu\u015f gibi alg\u0131 olu\u015fturmak ya da su\u00e7layarak azalamak gibi fiziksel bir durum i\u00e7ermeyen ancak kar\u015f\u0131dakini psikolojik olarak yaralayan ifadeleri bar\u0131nd\u0131rmaktad\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Sosyal fl\u00f6rt \u015fiddeti<\/p>\n
Bir partnerin di\u011ferinin sosyal ili\u015fkilerini k\u0131s\u0131tlamas\u0131, kontrol etmesi ve sosyal \u00e7evreden soyutlamas\u0131d\u0131r. Asl\u0131nda ki\u015finin kendisinde g\u00fcven ile ilgili sorun olabilece\u011fini g\u00f6sterir. \u00d6rne\u011fin; ondan \u00f6nce ya\u015fanm\u0131\u015f olan hayat\u0131na sayg\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131k etmek, arkada\u015f – i\u015f ve aile ortam\u0131ndan uzakla\u015ft\u0131rmak, ba\u015fkalar\u0131yla olan ili\u015fkisini k\u0131skanmak ve yarg\u0131lamak gibi davran\u0131\u015flard\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Dijital fl\u00f6rt \u015fiddeti<\/p>\n
Bir partnerin teknolojik ara\u00e7lar\u0131 di\u011ferini kontrol etmek i\u00e7in kullanmas\u0131, bu ara\u00e7lar arac\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131yla tehdit etmesidir. \u00d6rne\u011fin; kullan\u0131lan sosyal a\u011flar\u0131n kontrol\u00fc, \u015fifrelerinin verilmesi, sosyal a\u011flarda yap\u0131lan arkada\u015fl\u0131klar\u0131n silinmesi veya engellenmesi, baz\u0131 uygulamalarla partnerinin ne zaman nerede oldu\u011funu takip etmesi gibi davran\u0131\u015flard\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Israrl\u0131 takip (Stalking)<\/p>\n
Ayr\u0131ld\u0131ktan sonra ya da halen birlikte olunan partnerin di\u011ferini s\u00fcrekli izlemesi ve takip etmesidir. Takip davran\u0131\u015f\u0131, korku uyand\u0131rmay\u0131, g\u00f6zda\u011f\u0131 vermeyi, yanl\u0131\u015f bir \u015fey yap\u0131yormu\u015f gibi alg\u0131 olu\u015fturmay\u0131 ve g\u00fcvencesiz hissettirmeyi hedefleyen davran\u0131\u015flard\u0131r.<\/p>\n
Uzman Klinik Psikolog Asl\u0131 \u00d6zsoy, a\u00e7\u0131klamas\u0131n\u0131n son b\u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fcnde ise, \u201c\u015eiddete ya da sald\u0131rgan davran\u0131\u015flara ba\u015fvuran ki\u015finin sorunu en ba\u015fta ailesinden ba\u015flar, ailesinin ve aralar\u0131ndaki ili\u015fkisel tutumun \u00f6nemiyle devam eder, aileden gelen genetik ge\u00e7i\u015finde b\u00fcy\u00fck rol\u00fc vard\u0131r. E\u011fer ailede ensest ili\u015fkiler ve istismara a\u00e7\u0131k durumlar varsa ve \u00e7ocuk bunlara \u015fahit olmu\u015f veya kendisi ya\u015fam\u0131\u015fsa, ailede ciddi bir psikolojik rahats\u0131zl\u0131k varsa ergenli\u011finden itibaren yeti\u015fkinli\u011fine dayanan ili\u015fkilerinde sorunlar\u0131 olu\u015fturan taraf olabilir. \u00c7ocuklu\u011fundan itibaren k\u00f6t\u00fc muamele g\u00f6rm\u00fc\u015f, yetersiz bak\u0131ma maruz kalm\u0131\u015f, ilgi ve sevgi g\u00f6rmemi\u015f, \u00f6zg\u00fcveni geli\u015fememi\u015f ki\u015filerin ise fl\u00f6rt \u015fiddetine maruz kalma riski daha fazla olabilir.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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