{"id":63964,"date":"2019-03-01T11:16:43","date_gmt":"2019-03-01T08:16:43","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/evlilikte-dogru-bilinen-15-yanlis\/"},"modified":"2019-03-01T11:16:47","modified_gmt":"2019-03-01T08:16:47","slug":"evlilikte-dogru-bilinen-15-yanlis","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/evlilikte-dogru-bilinen-15-yanlis\/","title":{"rendered":"Evlilikte do\u011fru bilinen 15 yanl\u0131\u015f"},"content":{"rendered":"

Ac\u0131badem Adana Hastanesi\u2018nden Psikolog Hande Nacar Ba\u015f, mutlu bir evlili\u011fin herkese uygulanabilen sihirli bir s\u0131rr\u0131 olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, yine de \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131n\u0131 birbirlerinden gizlemeyip kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 ileti\u015fim kuran ve tart\u0131\u015fmay\u0131 tercih eden \u00e7iftlerin evlilik uyumunun daha fazla oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yledi.<\/p>\n

Psikolog Ba\u015f, evlilikte do\u011fru bilinen 15 yanl\u0131\u015f\u0131 s\u0131ralayarak, \u00e7iftlere bu yanl\u0131\u015flardan ka\u00e7\u0131nmalar\u0131 uyar\u0131s\u0131nda bulundu.<\/p>\n

Psikolog Hande Nacar Ba\u015f, ara\u015ft\u0131rmalar\u0131n e\u015fler aras\u0131nda en \u00e7ok, fikir al\u0131\u015fveri\u015fi ve birlikte zaman ge\u00e7irme konular\u0131nda uyu\u015fmazl\u0131k ya\u015fand\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ortaya koydu\u011funu kaydetti. \u00c7at\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131n oldu\u011fu, yani uyu\u015fmazl\u0131klar\u0131n \u00e7iftler taraf\u0131ndan gizlenmeyip g\u00fcndeme getirildi\u011fi evliliklerde sorunun konu\u015fulmas\u0131 nedeniyle \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcme ula\u015fmas\u0131n\u0131n daha olas\u0131 oldu\u011funu belirten Ba\u015f, “Bu tip evliliklerde bo\u015fanma oranlar\u0131n\u0131n da daha az oldu\u011funa dikkat \u00e7ekiyor. \u00c7iftlerin tart\u0131\u015fmay\u0131 ya da kavga etmeyi \u2018ili\u015fki kalitesindeki d\u00fc\u015f\u00fckl\u00fck\u2019 olarak nitelendirdi\u011fi evliliklerde ise bo\u015fanma karar\u0131 daha \u00e7abuk al\u0131nabiliyor” diye konu\u015ftu.<\/p>\n

Kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 emek vermek yerine d\u00fczen de\u011fi\u015ftirme iste\u011fi a\u011f\u0131r bas\u0131yor<\/p>\n

G\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz d\u00fcnyas\u0131nda ki\u015filerin hayat\u0131n bir defa ya\u015fand\u0131\u011f\u0131 inanc\u0131yla mutsuz olduklar\u0131 an, i\u00e7inde bulunduklar\u0131 d\u00fczeni de\u011fi\u015ftirmek istediklerini ifade eden Ba\u015f, \u201cBu bazen anne baban\u0131n yan\u0131ndan ta\u015f\u0131nmak, bazen de k\u00f6t\u00fc gitti\u011fine inan\u0131lan bir evlili\u011fi sonland\u0131rmak \u015feklinde ortaya \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yor. Genellikle \u00e7ocukken her istediklerini kolayca elde etmi\u015f olan ya da “\u00e7at\u0131\u015fma, tart\u0131\u015fma bana g\u00f6re de\u011fil” diyen bireyler evlilik hayat\u0131nda sorunla kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131klar\u0131nda sorundan ka\u00e7ma yolunu tercih edebiliyorlar\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n

E\u015f olmak birbirine duygusal yat\u0131r\u0131m yapmaktan vazge\u00e7mek demek de\u011fil<\/p>\n

Birbirini severek evlenen \u00e7iftlerin evlendikten sonra birbirlerine duygusal yat\u0131r\u0131m yapmaktan, emek vermekten ya da \u00f6zen g\u00f6stermekten vazge\u00e7tiklerinde evlilikte y\u0131pranmalar\u0131n da ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 belirten Ba\u015f, \u015funlar\u0131 kaydetti:<\/p>\n

\u201cHalbuki ili\u015fki kalitesi sars\u0131lmadan konu\u015fmaya ve varsa \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131 \u00e7\u00f6zmeye ba\u015flamak en do\u011frusu. \u00d6rne\u011fin \u00f6zel g\u00fcnlerin, pahal\u0131 olmas\u0131 hi\u00e7 de \u015fart olmayan ama anlaml\u0131 hediyelerle hat\u0131rlanmas\u0131 e\u015flerin birbirlerine \u00f6zenini g\u00f6sterebilecekleri bir alan. Ya da ge\u00e7mi\u015fe tak\u0131l\u0131p kalmadan ve ge\u00e7mi\u015ften gelen y\u00fckleri evlili\u011fe yans\u0131tmadan ilerlemek evlili\u011fin uzun \u00f6m\u00fcrl\u00fc olmas\u0131 \u015fans\u0131n\u0131 art\u0131r\u0131yor.\u201d<\/p>\n

Evlilikte do\u011fru bilinen yanl\u0131\u015flar<\/p>\n

\u201c\u0130li\u015fkilerde dinami\u011fi kaybetmemek ve kalitesini art\u0131rmak i\u00e7in \u00f6ncelikle yanl\u0131\u015f inan\u0131\u015flardan vazge\u00e7ilmeli\u201d diyen Psikolog Ba\u015f, en \u00e7ok kar\u015f\u0131lar\u0131na \u00e7\u0131kan do\u011fru bilinen yanl\u0131\u015f inan\u0131\u015flar\u0131 da \u015fu \u015fekilde s\u0131ralad\u0131:<\/p>\n

\u201cMutlu ili\u015fki i\u00e7in partnerlerin birbirlerine a\u015f\u0131k olmas\u0131 \u015fartt\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Mutlu bir evlili\u011fin s\u0131rr\u0131, her \u015feyin payla\u015f\u0131lmas\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

\u00c7iftler birbirlerini konu\u015fmadan dahi anlayabilirler.<\/p>\n

Tart\u0131\u015fman\u0131n olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 evlilik, mutlu evliliktir.<\/p>\n

Erke\u011fin mutlu olmas\u0131 i\u00e7in cinsel hayat\u0131n aktif olmas\u0131 yeterlidir.<\/p>\n

Evliliklerde maddi sorumluluk erke\u011fe aittir.<\/p>\n

\u00c7iftler uyumluysa evlilikleri de iyi gider, emek harcamak \u00f6nemli de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n

Evlendikten sonra e\u015f ile randevula\u015fmak yaln\u0131zca maddi kay\u0131pt\u0131r.<\/p>\n

E\u015flerin yata\u011fa beraber girmesi veya yemeklerini beraber yemesi \u00e7ok da \u00f6nemli konular de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n

Seven insan k\u0131skan\u0131r. K\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k sevginin ispat\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Evlilik monotonla\u015ft\u0131ysa \u00e7ocuk yapman\u0131n vakti geldi demektir.<\/p>\n

Tart\u0131\u015fmalarda hakl\u0131 olan taraf bellidir. Haks\u0131z olan taraf\u0131n bunu kabul etmesi gerekir.<\/p>\n

K\u00fcsl\u00fck ili\u015fkiye renk katar, heyecan\u0131 art\u0131r\u0131r.<\/p>\n

\u00c7ocuk var ise bo\u015fanmak s\u00f6z konusu olmamal\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n

Ayr\u0131lmak b\u00fct\u00fcn sorunlar\u0131n \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm\u00fcd\u00fcr.\u201d

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PS\u0130KOLOG BA\u015e, EVL\u0130L\u0130KTE DO\u011eRU B\u0130L\u0130NEN 15 YANLI\u015eI DA SIRALAYARAK, \u00c7\u0130FTLERE BU YANLI\u015eLARDAN KA\u00c7INMALARI UYARISINDA BULUNDU.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":63965,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[8112,619,13438,14713],"class_list":["post-63964","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-genel","tag-bilinen","tag-dogru","tag-evlilikte","tag-yanlis"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.tvturk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/evlilikte-dogru-bilinen-15-yanlis_80d4df4.jpg?fit=1000%2C765","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/paKIfm-gDG","_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/63964","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=63964"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/63964\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":63970,"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/63964\/revisions\/63970"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/63965"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=63964"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=63964"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=63964"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}