Son y\u0131llarda artan \u00e7ocuk istismarlar\u0131n\u0131n \u00e7e\u015fitli \u015fekillerde kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131za \u00e7\u0131kabildi\u011fine dikkat \u00e7eken \u00c7ocuk Geli\u015fimi Program\u0131 \u00d6\u011fretim G\u00f6revlileri Melis H\u0131d\u0131r ve Fatma Y\u0131ld\u0131z, \u201c\u00c7ocu\u011fu a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 korudu\u011fumuz zaman da \u00e7ocu\u011fun ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ve \u00f6zerkli\u011fini engelliyoruz. Asl\u0131nda \u00e7ocu\u011fa yine bir duygusal istismar uygulam\u0131\u015f oluyoruz. Ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131, \u00f6zerkli\u011fi engellenen \u00e7ocuk, i\u00e7ine kapan\u0131k olabiliyor ya da tam tersi davran\u0131\u015flar sergileyebiliyor\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n
\u0130zmir Kavram Meslek Y\u00fcksekokulu \u00c7ocuk Geli\u015fimi Program\u0131 \u00d6\u011fretim G\u00f6revlileri Melis H\u0131d\u0131r ve Fatma Y\u0131ld\u0131z, son y\u0131llarda ya\u015fanan ve toplumu derinden etkileyen ac\u0131 olaylar sebebiyle \u00fclkenin \u00f6nemli meselelerinden biri haline gelen \u00e7ocuk istismar\u0131 hakk\u0131nda bilgiler verdi. \u00c7ocuk istismar\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7ocu\u011fun bak\u0131m\u0131ndan sorumlu ki\u015filer taraf\u0131ndan t\u00fcm geli\u015fim alanlar\u0131n\u0131 engelleyen, beden ve ruh sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n b\u00fct\u00fcnl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc bozan, kaza sonucu olmayan durumlarla kar\u015f\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131ya kal\u0131nmas\u0131 olarak tan\u0131mlayan Melis H\u0131d\u0131r, istismar\u0131n d\u00f6rt \u015fekilde ger\u00e7ekle\u015fti\u011fine dikkat \u00e7ekti. Fiziksel, duygusal, ekonomik ve cinsel istismar olarak ortaya \u00e7\u0131kan istismar\u0131n \u00e7ocuklar \u00fczerinde etkiler olu\u015fturdu\u011funu belirten H\u0131d\u0131r, \u00f6zellikle yap\u0131lan ara\u015ft\u0131rmalar\u0131n kendi \u00e7ocuklu\u011funda ailesi taraf\u0131ndan \u015fiddet g\u00f6ren insanlar\u0131n kendi \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na daha fazla fiziksel \u015fiddet uygulad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ortaya koydu\u011funu dile getirdi.<\/p>\n
\u201c\u00c7ocu\u011fu a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 korumak da duygusal istismard\u0131r\u201d<\/p>\n
\u00d6zellikle \u00e7ocuklara uygulanan en \u00f6nemli istismarlardan duygusal istismar\u0131n \u00f6nemine de\u011finen H\u0131d\u0131r, duygusal istismar\u0131n kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131za en s\u0131k \u00e7\u0131kan istismar \u015fekli oldu\u011funu vurgulad\u0131. \u00c7ocu\u011fun ailesi ya da onu yeti\u015ftiren yeti\u015fkin taraf\u0131ndan maruz kald\u0131\u011f\u0131 k\u00f6t\u00fc muamelelerin duygusal istismara girdi\u011fini ifade eden H\u0131d\u0131r, \u201cDuygusal istismarda fiziksel bir temas herhangi bir ko\u015ful de\u011fil, anne baba, yeti\u015fkin ve \u00e7ocuklar aras\u0131ndaki ili\u015fkiyi tan\u0131ml\u0131yor. Kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131za a\u015fa\u011f\u0131lama, korkutma, yaln\u0131z b\u0131rakmak, sevgiden ve ilgiden eksik b\u0131rakma, aile i\u00e7i \u015fiddete \u00e7ocu\u011fu tan\u0131k etme, a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 koruma, s\u00f6zl\u00fc \u015fiddet, y\u0131ld\u0131rma, ayr\u0131m yapma, reddetme gibi daha sayabilece\u011fimiz bir\u00e7ok eylem duygusal istismar \u00f6rne\u011fidir. \u00c7ocu\u011fu a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 korudu\u011fumuz zaman da \u00e7ocu\u011fun ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ve \u00f6zerkli\u011fini engelliyoruz. Asl\u0131nda \u00e7ocu\u011fa yine bir duygusal istismar uygulam\u0131\u015f oluyoruz. Ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131, \u00f6zerkli\u011fi engellenen \u00e7ocuk, i\u00e7ine kapan\u0131k olabiliyor ya da tam tersi davran\u0131\u015flar sergileyebiliyor\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n
“Ekonomik istismar da yayg\u0131nla\u015f\u0131yor”<\/p>\n
Maddi olumsuzluklar gibi bir\u00e7ok nedenle g\u00f6r\u00fclebilen ekonomik istismar\u0131n da yayg\u0131nla\u015fmaya ba\u015flad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ifade eden Melis H\u0131d\u0131r, \u201cEkonomik istismar, \u00e7ocuk i\u015f\u00e7ili\u011fi, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n kendi r\u0131zalar\u0131 d\u0131\u015f\u0131nda \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131lmas\u0131, gelir da\u011f\u0131l\u0131m\u0131ndaki e\u015fitsizlikler, yayg\u0131nla\u015fan yoksulluk, \u00e7ocuk eme\u011finin ucuz olmas\u0131 gibi sorunlarla ilgili d\u0131\u015far\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z her anda asl\u0131nda \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131na \u015fahit oluyoruz. \u00c7ocu\u011fun yarar\u0131 i\u00e7in ailenin, kamunun, okullar\u0131n, insanlar\u0131n, hepimizin bu sorumlulu\u011fu fark etmesi ve \u00fcstlenmesi gerekiyor. B\u0131rakal\u0131m her \u00e7ocuk \u00e7ocuklu\u011funu ya\u015fas\u0131n, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n oyun hakk\u0131, e\u011fitim hakk\u0131, ya\u015fam hakk\u0131 ellerinden al\u0131nmas\u0131n. Geli\u015fimini her y\u00f6nden sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir \u015fekilde tamamlam\u0131\u015f \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 toplumlar olu\u015fturaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 unutmayal\u0131m\u201d diye konu\u015ftu.<\/p>\n
\u201cCinsel istismara maruz kalan \u00e7ocuk hikaye uydurmuyor\u201d<\/p>\n
Cinsel istismar\u0131n di\u011fer istismarlara g\u00f6re say\u0131sal olarak daha az veri ve ara\u015ft\u0131rmaya sahip oldu\u011funu kaydeden H\u0131d\u0131r, \u015funlar\u0131 s\u00f6yledi:<\/p>\n
“Cinsel istismara u\u011frayan \u00e7ocuklar genellikle kendilerine uygulanan davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n niteli\u011fini anlayabilecek bilin\u00e7sel g\u00fcce sahip de\u011filler. \u00c7ocuklar tehdit ediliyor, susturuluyor. Kendisine inan\u0131lmayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131, etiketlenece\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorlar. En basitinden korktuklar\u0131 i\u00e7in ba\u015fkalar\u0131yla payla\u015fmaya \u00e7ekiniyorlar. Bu da istismara tekrar maruz kalmalar\u0131na neden olabiliyor. Cinsel istismar\u0131n yan\u0131nda fiziksel \u015fiddet uygulanm\u0131\u015f olabiliyor. Ara\u015ft\u0131rmalar ve deneyimler \u015funu g\u00f6steriyor ki istismar konusunda hikaye uyduran \u00e7ocuk say\u0131s\u0131 \u00e7ok azd\u0131r. Aileler \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n anlatt\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 dikkate almal\u0131, anlatt\u0131klar\u0131na de\u011fer vermelidir.”<\/p>\n
\u201cTepkisizlik de en b\u00fcy\u00fck tepkidir\u201d<\/p>\n
\u00c7ocuklara uygulanan istismar ve ihmal sonucunda kimliklerin etkilendi\u011fini dile getiren H\u0131d\u0131r, \u201c\u00c7ocukta g\u00f6zlemledi\u011fimiz davran\u0131\u015flar; korku, kayg\u0131, k\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131k, depresyon, d\u00fc\u015fmanl\u0131k, kendini \u00e7aresiz ve de\u011fersiz hissetme, kendine zarar verme, intihara, zararl\u0131 maddelere y\u00f6nelme gibi davran\u0131\u015flar g\u00f6zlemleyebiliyoruz. Ya da bireysel farkl\u0131l\u0131klara ba\u011fl\u0131 olarak \u00e7ocukta hi\u00e7bir tepki alam\u0131yoruz. Bu durumda \u015funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeliler, tepkisizlik de asl\u0131nda en b\u00fcy\u00fck bir tepkidir\u201d ifadelerini kulland\u0131.<\/p>\n
\u201cKorunma hakk\u0131, ya\u015fama hakk\u0131, geli\u015fim hakk\u0131 ve kendini ifade hakk\u0131 \u00e7ocu\u011fun en temel haklar\u0131d\u0131r\u201d<\/p>\n
18 ya\u015f\u0131na kadar herkesin \u00e7ocuk say\u0131labilece\u011fini belirten Fatma Y\u0131ld\u0131z ise, her \u00e7ocu\u011fun korunmaya muhta\u00e7 oldu\u011funu, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n en temel haklar\u0131n\u0131n korunma hakk\u0131, ya\u015fama hakk\u0131, geli\u015fim hakk\u0131 ve kendisini ifade hakk\u0131 oldu\u011funun alt\u0131n\u0131 \u00e7izerek, istismara u\u011fram\u0131\u015f \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n anne-babalar\u0131 i\u00e7in \u00f6nerilerde bulundu. \u00c7ocu\u011fu istismara u\u011frayan her ebeveynde a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 \u00f6fke ve isyan duygular\u0131n\u0131n olu\u015ftu\u011funu s\u00f6yleyen Y\u0131ld\u0131z, b\u00f6yle bir durumda \u00f6fke, isyan ve su\u00e7luluk duygusunun \u00e7ocukla de\u011fil ba\u015fka bir yeti\u015fkinle payla\u015f\u0131lmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fi konusunda uyard\u0131. Y\u0131ld\u0131z, “\u00c7ocu\u011funuzun kendi olumuz duygular\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n sorumlulu\u011funu \u00fcstlenmesini istemiyorsan\u0131z anne-baba olarak duygular\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 kontrol alt\u0131na almal\u0131s\u0131n\u0131z” dedi.<\/p>\n
\u201cDuygusal destek sa\u011flay\u0131n\u201d<\/p>\n
Cinsel istismara u\u011fram\u0131\u015f bir \u00e7ocu\u011fa yap\u0131labilecek en b\u00fcy\u00fck yard\u0131m\u0131n ona \u015fefkat ve anlay\u0131\u015f g\u00f6stermek oldu\u011funu belirten Fatma Y\u0131ld\u0131z, “Ya\u015fanan olay ne kadar ac\u0131 verici olursa olsun \u00e7ocu\u011funuza a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 kayg\u0131 ve ac\u0131ma duygular\u0131 g\u00f6stermek, onun bu s\u00fcreci atlatmas\u0131n\u0131 g\u00fc\u00e7le\u015ftirebilir” diye konu\u015ftu.<\/p>\n
Y\u0131ld\u0131z, \u00e7ocu\u011fun ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 istismarda kesinlikle kendisinin su\u00e7lu olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlamas\u0131n\u0131n sa\u011flanmas\u0131 ve “bunu sana yapmas\u0131na nas\u0131l izin verdin” gibi su\u00e7lay\u0131c\u0131 c\u00fcmleler kullan\u0131lmamas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini dile getirdi. Y\u0131ld\u0131z, cinsel istismar ma\u011fduru \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n bu olay\u0131n \u00fcstesinden gelmesine yard\u0131mc\u0131 olmak, \u00e7ocu\u011fa \u00f6z sayg\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 ve kendisine olan g\u00fcvenini tekrar kazand\u0131rmak, su\u00e7luluk duygular\u0131ndan ar\u0131nd\u0131rmak, ergenlik d\u00f6neminde ortaya \u00e7\u0131kabilecek psikolojik sorunlar\u0131n \u00f6n\u00fcne ge\u00e7ebilmek ve ailenin \u00e7ocu\u011fu yard\u0131mc\u0131 olabilmesi a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan uzman yard\u0131m\u0131 al\u0131nmas\u0131n\u0131n da iyile\u015fme s\u00fcrecinde \u00f6nemli bir yeri oldu\u011funu belirtti.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
SON YILLARDA ARTAN \u00c7OCUK \u0130ST\u0130SMARLARININ \u00c7E\u015e\u0130TL\u0130 \u015eEK\u0130LLERDE KAR\u015eIMIZA \u00c7IKAB\u0130LD\u0130\u011e\u0130NE D\u0130KKAT \u00c7EKEN \u0130ZM\u0130R KAVRAM MESLEK Y\u00dcKSEKOKULU \u00c7OCUK GEL\u0130\u015e\u0130M\u0130 PROGRAMI \u00d6\u011eRET\u0130M G\u00d6REVL\u0130LER\u0130 MEL\u0130S HIDIR, \u201c\u00c7OCU\u011eU A\u015eIRI KORUMAK DA DUYGUSAL \u0130ST\u0130SMARDIR\u201d DED\u0130.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":6930,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2},"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[1],"tags":[1402,3647,3649,3650,3648,3573],"class_list":["post-6929","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-genel","tag-asiri","tag-cocugu","tag-duygusal","tag-istismar","tag-korumak","tag-nedeni"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.tvturk.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/cocugu-asiri-korumak-da-duygusal-istismar-nedeni_835de79.jpg?fit=684%2C430","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/paKIfm-1NL","_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6929","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6929"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6929\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/6930"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6929"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6929"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.tvturk.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6929"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}