Ki\u015filik bozuklu\u011fu olan narsistli\u011fe sahip olan ki\u015filerde g\u00f6r\u00fclen davran\u0131\u015f bi\u00e7imleri hakk\u0131nda a\u00e7\u0131klamalarda bulunan Uzman Klinik Psikolog Ece \u00c7al\u0131\u015fkan Suba\u015f\u0131, narsisistli\u011fe ebeveynlerin davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n neden olabilece\u011fini s\u00f6yledi.<\/p>\n
VM Medical Park Kocaeli Hastanesi Uzman Klinik Psikolog Ece \u00c7al\u0131\u015fkan Suba\u015f\u0131, narsisistik ki\u015filik bozuklu\u011funun olu\u015fmas\u0131na sebep olan nedenler ve bir psikolojik rahats\u0131zl\u0131\u011fa sahip olan narsist ki\u015filerde g\u00f6zlemlenen davran\u0131\u015f \u00f6zellikleri hakk\u0131nda bilgiler aktard\u0131. Ki\u015filik bozuklu\u011fu olan ki\u015filerde g\u00f6zlemlenen narsisistik ki\u015filik bozuklu\u011funun olu\u015fmas\u0131n\u0131n en b\u00fcy\u00fck sebeplerden birisinin ebeveynlerin \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131 g\u00f6sterdi\u011fi davran\u0131\u015flardan kaynakland\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 s\u00f6yleyen Suba\u015f\u0131, ailelerin \u00e7ocu\u011funa hak etmedi\u011fi \u00f6vg\u00fclerde bulunmas\u0131n\u0131n narsist ki\u015fili\u011fin olu\u015fmas\u0131na neden olabilece\u011fini ifade etti. Narsisistik ki\u015filik bozuklu\u011funun di\u011fer psikolojik hastal\u0131klara g\u00f6re tedavisinin daha zor oldu\u011funu belirten Suba\u015f\u0131, “G\u00fcnl\u00fck hayatta etraf\u0131m\u0131zdaki pek \u00e7ok ki\u015fiyi \u2018narsist\u2019 olarak tan\u0131mlad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z olmu\u015ftur ya da ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n size kar\u015f\u0131 bu kelimeyi kulland\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 duymu\u015f olabilirsiniz ancak tan\u0131 olarak bir ki\u015fide narsisistik ki\u015filik bozuklu\u011fu oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yleyebilmek i\u00e7in belli ba\u015fl\u0131 kriterler mevcuttur\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n
“Kendini di\u011ferlerinden b\u00fcy\u00fck g\u00f6rme duygusu”<\/p>\n
\u2018Narsist\u2019 ki\u015filerde g\u00f6zlenebilecek davran\u0131\u015f \u00f6zellikleri hakk\u0131nda bilgiler aktaran Suba\u015f\u0131, \u201cNarsisistik ki\u015filik bozuklu\u011fu olan ki\u015filerde \u00f6ncelikle kendini b\u00fcy\u00fck g\u00f6rme, \u2018b\u00fcy\u00fcklenme\u2019 duygusunu yo\u011fun bir bi\u00e7imde g\u00f6zlemleriz. Ba\u015far\u0131 ve yeteneklerini abartarak oldu\u011fundan \u00e7ok daha \u00f6nemli ve \u00fcst\u00fcn g\u00f6r\u00fcnme beklentisine sahip olan bu ki\u015filer, di\u011fer insanlardan daha \u00fcst\u00fcn olduklar\u0131n\u0131 ve bu sebeple ayr\u0131cal\u0131kl\u0131 davran\u0131lmay\u0131 hak ettiklerini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcrler. Ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131 kendi ama\u00e7lar\u0131 i\u00e7in kullan\u0131r, haset eder ve \u00e7o\u011funlukla ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n kendilerini k\u0131skand\u0131\u011f\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesi i\u00e7erisinde olurlar. D\u0131\u015f g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fc\u015fleriyle a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 derecede ilgilenir, kendilerine hayran olunmas\u0131n\u0131 beklerler. Ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131\u011fa ve kaybetmeye tahamm\u00fcl edemeyen bu insanlar, ele\u015ftiriye de \u00e7ok b\u00fcy\u00fck \u00f6fke ve ta\u015fk\u0131nl\u0131kla yan\u0131t verirler. Di\u011fer insanlarla empati kuramazlar, yak\u0131nlar\u0131n\u0131n dahi duygu ve gereksinimlerine de\u011fer vermezler. Bu sebeple insanlarla ili\u015fkilerinde bencil\/ben merkezci olarak nitelendirilir ve tan\u0131n\u0131rlar\u201d diye konu\u015ftu.<\/p>\n
“Di\u011fer psikolojik rahats\u0131zl\u0131klara g\u00f6re narsisizmin tedavisi biraz daha zordur”<\/p>\n
\u2018Bencil\u2019 olarak tan\u0131nan bireylerin narsisistik ki\u015filik bozuklu\u011funu bar\u0131nd\u0131ramayabilece\u011fini belirten Suba\u015f\u0131, narsisizmin tedavisinin di\u011fer psikolojik rahats\u0131zl\u0131klara g\u00f6re daha zor oldu\u011funu dile getirerek, \u201cBencil olarak tan\u0131d\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z herkese narsist diyebilir miyiz? Narsisistik ki\u015filik bozuklu\u011fundan bahsedebilmek i\u00e7in bu sayd\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z \u00f6zelliklerin \u00e7o\u011funun bir arada bulunmas\u0131 gerekmektedir. Narsisistik ki\u015filik bozuklu\u011fu, benmerkezci \u00f6zelli\u011fini bar\u0131nd\u0131r\u0131r. Fakat yaln\u0131zca bencillikle s\u0131n\u0131rland\u0131r\u0131lamaz. Narsisizm psikolojik bir bozuklukken, bencillik sadece bir davran\u0131\u015f bi\u00e7imidir ve bencil olan herkese narsist demek do\u011fru olmaz. Di\u011fer psikolojik rahats\u0131zl\u0131klara g\u00f6re narsisizmin tedavisi biraz daha zordur. Bunun ba\u015fl\u0131ca nedeni narsist ki\u015filerin kendilerine psikolojik tedavi g\u00f6rmeyi yak\u0131\u015ft\u0131ramad\u0131klar\u0131ndand\u0131r. Kendilerini \u00fcst\u00fcn ve m\u00fckemmel insan olarak g\u00f6rd\u00fcklerinden bu ki\u015filer, narsist olduklar\u0131n\u0131 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fckleri i\u00e7in tedaviye ba\u015fvurmazlar. Daha \u00e7ok kaybetme, mesleki veya duygusal ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131\u011fa olan tahamm\u00fcls\u00fczl\u00fckleri sebebiyle a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 \u00f6fke patlamalar\u0131, kayg\u0131 problemleri, \u00e7\u00f6kk\u00fcnl\u00fckler veya depresyon sebebiyle terapiste ba\u015fvurduklar\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcl\u00fcr. Yine empati yoksunlu\u011fu sebebiyle yaln\u0131zca y\u00fczeysel ili\u015fkiler kurabilen bu ki\u015filerin ki\u015fileraras\u0131 ili\u015fki problemleri de ba\u015fl\u0131ca terapiste ba\u015fvurma sebeplerindendir\u201d \u015feklinde konu\u015ftu.<\/p>\n
“Narsisistik ki\u015filik bozuklu\u011funun olu\u015fumunda ailenin bireyi yeti\u015ftirme tutumunun pay\u0131 b\u00fcy\u00fckt\u00fcr”<\/p>\n
Narsizmin olu\u015fmas\u0131na aile i\u00e7indeki ileti\u015fimin neden olabilece\u011fini s\u00f6yleyen Suba\u015f\u0131, \u201cTerapiye ba\u015fvuran ki\u015finin narsisistik ki\u015filik bozuklu\u011funa sahip oldu\u011funu tespit etmek ve buna uygun tedavi y\u00f6ntemleri belirlemek \u00e7ok \u00f6nemlidir. Kronikle\u015fme e\u011filimi g\u00f6steren bu hastal\u0131\u011f\u0131n tedavisi zor olsa da imkans\u0131z de\u011fildir. Narsisistlik ki\u015filik bozuklu\u011funun olu\u015fumunda ailenin bireyi yeti\u015ftirme tutumunun pay\u0131 b\u00fcy\u00fckt\u00fcr. Narsist ki\u015fili\u011fin olu\u015fumunda a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 \u015f\u0131martan fakat bir yandan so\u011fuk, uzak ve manevi anlamda ilgisiz bir ebeveyn tutumu b\u00fcy\u00fck rol oynar. \u00c7ocu\u011funu hak etmedi\u011fi durumlarda dahi \u00f6vg\u00fcye bo\u011fan, her durumda savunan, her hatas\u0131n\u0131 kapatan, di\u011fer \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n oldu\u011fu bir ortamda \u00e7ocu\u011funu kurals\u0131z bir bi\u00e7imde di\u011ferlerinin \u00f6n\u00fcne ge\u00e7irmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan anne ve baban\u0131n narsist bir birey yaratmas\u0131 olduk\u00e7a muhtemeldir. Ailenin \u00e7ocuk hi\u00e7bir \u015fey yapmasa dahi onu \u00f6d\u00fcllendirmesi, \u00e7ocu\u011fun talebini veya iste\u011fini \u00e7ocuk hi\u00e7bir \u00e7aba g\u00f6stermeksizin yerine getirmesi, ona her yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131n do\u011fru oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcrmesi, bireyde d\u0131\u015far\u0131da da \u00fcst\u00fcn ve ayr\u0131cal\u0131kl\u0131 davran\u0131lmay\u0131 hak etti\u011fi d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcncesini uyand\u0131rmaktad\u0131r\u201d ifadelerini kulland\u0131.<\/p>\n
“Ailenin i\u00e7i bo\u015f \u00f6vg\u00fc ve \u015f\u0131martmalar\u0131, bireyin \u00f6z sayg\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 yanl\u0131\u015f temellendirmesine yol a\u00e7ar”<\/p>\n
Ebeveynlere \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na kar\u015f\u0131 g\u00f6stermi\u015f olduklar\u0131 davran\u0131\u015flarda yapmalar\u0131 gerekenler konusunda uyar\u0131larda bulunan Uzman Klinik Psikolog Ece \u00c7al\u0131\u015fkan Suba\u015f\u0131, \u201cAilenin i\u00e7i bo\u015f \u00f6vg\u00fc ve \u015f\u0131martmalar\u0131, bireyin \u00f6z sayg\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 yanl\u0131\u015f temellendirmesine yol a\u00e7ar. Aile i\u00e7inde g\u00f6rd\u00fc\u011f\u00fc pohpohlanma ve yanl\u0131\u015f \u00f6vg\u00fc ile d\u0131\u015far\u0131da kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 ko\u015fullar birbiriyle \u00e7at\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131nda birey i\u00e7ten i\u00e7e hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131 ve mutsuzluk ya\u015far. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131 hen\u00fcz ba\u015faramad\u0131\u011f\u0131 veya sahip olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 niteliklere ra\u011fmen sanki t\u00fcm o m\u00fckemmel \u00f6zelliklere sahipmi\u015f gibi \u00f6ven ebeveynin \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 narsistik olmaya adayd\u0131r. Bu sebeple ebeveynin \u00e7ocukla ger\u00e7ek bir duygusal ba\u011f ve empati kurarak ona da ili\u015fki ve empati kurmay\u0131 \u00f6\u011fretmeleri \u00e7ok \u00f6nemlidir. Ba\u015far\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 gerekti\u011fi \u015fekilde ve \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fcde \u00f6vmeyi bilmeli, ona her istedi\u011finin ger\u00e7ekle\u015fmesinin m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 onunla ileti\u015fim kurularak anlat\u0131lmal\u0131d\u0131r. Yine aile i\u00e7inde \u00e7ocu\u011fun istekleri ve sorumluluklar\u0131 konusunda s\u0131n\u0131rlar ve kurallar koyarak \u00e7ocu\u011fun bu kurallara uymas\u0131n\u0131 sa\u011flamal\u0131, \u00e7ocu\u011fa d\u0131\u015far\u0131da da uymas\u0131 gereken s\u0131n\u0131rlar ve kurallar oldu\u011fu bilinci aktar\u0131lmal\u0131d\u0131r\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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